Masculinity Lived As A Positive Lifestyle by Calvin Harris, H. W., M.

This article is inspired by the thought of New Year’s Resolutions and a blog heading I saw that read - “A Gentlemen’s Guide to Being a Man in the 21st Century.”

New Year’s Resolution? A Gentlemen’s Guide?? Some would say two dubious concepts at best, did you know that only 8% of people who make New Year's resolutions actually succeed in achieving them? Given the small percentage of resolutions accomplished within a year; and given the small percentage of men who are, or consider themselves Gentlemen, begs the question,  is the term Gentleman even used anymore? I have heard men called bitches frequently, but seldom is a man considered a gentleman anymore, which is sad.

A Gentleman should not be separated as something different than a Masculine man; In past decades James Bond, 007, could have once, passed as a Gentleman.  This change of attitude can be attributed to the bad rap Masculinity has been getting in the last decade, and thus to account for the separation and disappearance of Gentleman.

Oh, I’ve gotten ahead of myself, I started with New Year’s Resolution (NYR’s).

The reasons why many New Year’s Resolutions (NYR’s) fail come down to unconscious thinking of life as being broken down into segments and not as continuous living: it is not based on “a  continuous life – using living goals as a strategy.  In other words, It is not set-up in the person’s mind as something they are going to do for life, and thus to follow through on as a permanent life change outcome.

If understood and framed as a “Life change goal’ with defined small steps within a long-term process, not a short-term or once-a-year shot. Then that mindset shift changes from making New Year’s resolutions to creating lasting change throughout your life and will allow for unexpected accomplishments rather than the limited possibilities of a new year’s resolution.

Now as to this idea of Gentleman in the 21st Century, nobody really knows what that is going to look like. So let us address the elephant in the middle of the room, Masculinity in the 21st Century, yes, that is the hot topic at the turn of the 21st Century, and yes like New Year’s Resolutions, it is a decision every man will need to make as to how he will live his Masculinity.

Masculinity, like New Year’s Resolutions, If understood properly, has to be framed as a “Life change goal’ It has to be understood as a long-term process, not a short-term, once-a-year resolution. Masculinity is active, evolving, and changing, and for you to achieve your vision of it, on a personal level, will take small conscious steps to accomplish, and these will not be without challenges, culturally or otherwise.

“The superior man is he who develops, in harmonious proportions, his moral, intellectual and physical nature. This should be the end at which men of all classes should aim, and it is this only which constitutes real greatness.” - Douglas Jerrold.

It seems as males, we are plagued by the shifting cultural demands made by societies on Masculinity, and what is worse, we then have to hear the laments of societies, as to was it enough? too much? or too little?  Know that these questions and scenarios have stumped many of my fellow males and at one time myself as to how to behave, what actions to perform, and decisions to make.

The answers to those questions can be vast, confusing, and lead you into some murky depths,  depending on how and/or who you learned to be masculine from. Which is a very different question than what is my identity as a Masculine Male?

The problem — and even more so today — is that the responses wanted or required by culture/society diverges from the previous set of standards of behaviors, some of those standard set as far back as the 1950s. That divergence of masculinity has been widening ever since.  These changes go beyond being taught car maintenance, or love of football, or how and when to fight, or even how to tie a necktie? I wonder, will these even be issues in the 21st and 22nd Centuries?   

Thus, a question comes up what or how were you taught to be a “masculine male,” and now you as an adult, who and what does that mean, look like, or acts like to you?  For many males, those descriptors of the last century that described masculinity, are not the best fit, for how the masculine male wants to feel, be known as, or to operate from today.

It seems we are in unknown waters here, and the persons wanting to be identified as a person of the masculine gender and is looking for role models and masculine image figures, just might find only confusion based on societal norms offer, especially since these masculine roles are in transition.

We live an amalgamation, meaning; perceived character flaws and virtues of past decades of masculinity are sewn together like a patchwork quilt. This is good news for you because this amalgamation is up for evaluation and change.

Perhaps a better question here is what would you want to present to the world as your life and thus how  would your life be lived?

Thus, this conversation probes and dig into a discussion about society and ourselves, as to expectations about what is masculinity? What does that look like in real-time? and Why does it matter?

We want to look at it because we want to identify ourselves rather than having media telling us who we are, through online discussions, oftentimes giving a skewed picture of Masculinity called “toxic masculinity” i.e. pointing to the failures, shortcomings, and flaws of living out today’ version of masculinity. The content of these discussions are recounted stories of  mistreatment, or the scorn suffered at the hands of male lovers, friends, and family members, that when these stories are told, imply that “all” masculinity is “toxic masculinity.” We do not want to infer that the construct masculine is the portrayal, that all masculinity is toxic.

We do not want to confuse the word masculinity with its adjectives, or its’ modifiers… any of those words that follow masculine as being masculinity. What follows that word, only tries to explain a possible aspect of masculinity, not masculinity itself.

Let’s stop here for a moment and maybe reframe our subject matter. The actual issue, here is that no one has a clue as to what masculinity’s actual role will be. We’re able to point to traits, some considered at this time to be deplorable, and say they’re a form of “toxic masculinity,” yet by definition masculinity has to have its own set of characteristics.

Food for example — by definition —  food isn’t toxic. It only becomes so, if it is spoiled, that is infected with bacteria which would render it spoiled. 

If you know the concept food, and it purpose and function, then it does not become difficult to tell the difference between what’s nutritional support and what’s spoiled. If you did not know the concept food, then, every sort of food could be toxic.

Unfortunately, that seems to be the approach we have taken with the term masculinity. and — as stated — no one is talking about the defining traits or attributes of what masculinity is. We see it mostly in context revolving around topics like girls, cars, money, or gym workouts, which is rather silly.

Instead, we should be asking What traits which are timeless and not aged with societal whim and fancy can we use to describe masculinity.

Traits that can be used as a lens to look through for the timeless essence that represents masculinity, that we would want to emulate, masculinity at its best, and that with whom most would agree are the hallmarks of a good man or used to denote that phase “traits of a gentlemen.”

There is much to chew on with this article and to wrap your consciousness around. I would like for you to write out your definition of masculinity for yourself and how you want to out-picture it in your life, and how you would want to change or modify what that looks like?

I am not having you do this exercise from the standpoint of for good or bad but to understand that you are the ability to create, conceive and manifest in your world, because your real identity is wrapped up in the concept of conceiving words as much as the action of the word. that you are consciousness, the ability to think, plan, and execute ideas that will change you and your concept of the world.

Thus, as a male, you can choose how masculinity will be expressed in your world. If you identify as female how that masculinity will be perceived and accepted into your world. Hmm it seems we might be both if an action of stating and then conceiving an idea to come forth. Joking we are talking about states of consciousness, that may be under and back of all of this appearance But that is a discussion for another time.

It will be interesting what you come up with and the conclusion you come to about yourself. I would be interested in hearing about it

Aloha

Calvin.

‘Man Up’ - More About Change Rather Than More of the Same

By Calvin Harris

The Power of The Masculine Aspect

The masculine aspect of one’s nature gets a bad rap these days. This needs to be cleared up by those of us that have become enlightened on the subject of Gender Expression. You know that concept of one’s external expression of identified gender, through one’s attire, how they act and other factors, generally measured on the barometer scale between masculinity and femininity.

The fact is all humans, to a degree, exhibit mental and physical traits of both masculinity and femininity.

The phrase “Man Up'“ gets its power to become an insult when directed to people that are embodying it but are unsure of what the masculine end of the spectrum should be. They somehow believe Masculinity is an “achieved status” that needs to be continually proven.

Historically, “manhood” was achieved culturally by the 3-Ps ritual: provide, protect, and procreate, a ritual of going from puberty to adulthood which typically meant demonstrating a capacity to provide, protect, and procreate, or some combination thereof. It showed a delineation or shift in status from juvenile to adult. In looking at these words closely - ‘providing’, ‘protecting’, and ‘procreating’ - we can see that these words have a lot to do with the response of maintaining a family unit. 

In current day America and other post-industrial nations, these traits of providing, protecting, and procreating have also become a woman’s descriptor. We can see in homes today that the 3-Ps are a  shared responsibility of husband and wife, or partner and partner, and this masculine trait is more obvious in the female in the case of the single mother who is the sole supplier - providing, protecting and in some instances artificially procreating in the family.

Therefore, 3-Ps basic delineator as a masculine aspect of male adulthood is no longer the standard for masculinity and thus has been evolving within the last few decades.

Masculinity: It has become precarious, so much so that an insecure guy of the species feels he must have his masculinity proven, and if challenged this must be upheld with an immediate answer.

The Pieces of Masculinity

In order to prove - or defend - his masculinity, a guy needs to act in ways that will readily be recognized as masculine. But “readily recognized” behaviors are often enacted in archetypal stereotypes of masculinity, particularly aspects of masculinity such as violence (i.e., fighting), risk-taking (e.g., excessive alcohol consumption) and forms of hooking up and promiscuous sexuality (it does not matter the sexual orientation, just as long as he can hide his own feelings except for anger). Our guy holds conversations with friends that are sexist, misogynist, or homophobic, as long as these conversations serve his purpose of appearing masculine; these aspects of masculinity are sometimes labeled “hypermasculinity” or “hostile masculinity” on the gender scales.

Within the last few decades, Masculinity has taken on new definitions and rituals that are more positive and self-sustaining to the person and his community. Action words highlight leadership, decisiveness, intelligence, perseverance, and problem-solving. Measures assess these aspects of masculinity and encourage the revealing of authenticity within the Masculine dynamic.

“What it means to be a man varies with ethnicity, nationality, age, and generational cohorts, as we move through life stages.”

Cultural men’s groups within the U.S., have added to the conversation:  African American male groups have added to their definitions on masculine identity with such terms as responsibility and accountability, autonomy, respect, and spirituality as important components of masculinity. Latino-American men’s groups include concepts such as familismo (family), personalismo (personality), simpatia (cordiality), and respeto (respect). Similar themes, I am sure can be identified in other multinational studies, with participants identifying the primary components of masculinity as being a man of honor, being in control of one’s own life, having the respect of friends, having a good job and coping with problems on your own.

These are the new watchwords when you find yourself being asked to ‘Man Up.’ Yes, it is more about the change of perspective rather than more of the same.

Where to Go From Here

By utilizing an investigation of your own comfort level with your masculinity through your interactions with others, this should give you the ability to examine what these power dynamics mean to you. How comfortable you are with these new definitions is inherent in your words and actions. This is a way to educate yourself about the various potential meanings of masculinity, and for you to come up with an understanding of masculinity that embodies your authenticity. Give yourself the space for decisions to create beneficial social interactions and habits – so that they create an outcome that you can honor.

A Man Is Expected - New Pathways of Being

by Calvin Harris, H.W., M

Heads Up The role of male on man is changing in “Prep” for the 22nd Century.

Something I hear more and more of from my clients in my Coaching practice, is “The Path of Manhood isn’t as clear as I had expected it to be, nor is it laid out as I was told it was.” I, too, know that feeling well. When I grew up I was surrounded by men, some uncles and a dad who were into the local barbershop culture, the man’s domain, a place a woman was seldom seen other than for the picture of the half nude pin-up girl on the wall. The music from the loud jukebox played blues or jazz, and the conversations in the room (usually two or three going in unison), were louder still, and clearly conveyed a sense of unbelievable bravado and fearlessness within the laughter of this man’s realm.

From my early years, back in the 1950’s, I felt the weight of the Macho image expectation, but even then I could tell that behind all that posturing, for many men, the apparent gangster or Rambo image was not quite the masculine image that many were interested in portraying, or representing, given the proximity and cost of that image in the aftermath of two World Wars. Yet, in my child’s mind, there were three simple principals that all good men seemed to live by:

Protector, Provider, Disciplinarian (1) You provided for the women and children in your life; (2) You pushed through the fear and held tears back to protect values and principals you believed in without talking about your pain; And (3) you disciplined / managed your emotions / pain by self-medication, such as whisky, beer, weed, drugs, or the Doc’s pills. If they stop being effective still show no reaction unless alone with a good buddy.  Whatever was said or done with that buddy was internalized and was never spoken of in the light of day in the new morning.

Oh, I am sure there are relatable additions or various subscripts to these scenarios, but these were the bedrock of what I saw while growing up.

Fast forward to the 1970's and we found ourselves at the beginning of transition and change, an undetected assault on the male paradigm.  But those signposts of what “male is,” and the grasp you thought you had on the role - its expectations in daily life - was beginning to slip. The erosion started with the male youth of the hippie culture protesting War and aggression, offering instead to drop-out, and to join love-ins as solutions. Also, brewing were their ladies, suggesting that their wants and needs had changed, and may not include serving men in the predisposing role of “servants” aka the stay-at-home good wife.

It seems the Male paradigm of the king of the house, he who rules over all in his home, which he calls his castle, has died, and the man clinging to that role has been in a state similar to the man who's just been kicked in the balls and the air rush out of him replaced by pain and bewilderment.

As the decades move forward things that had seemed almost unnatural earlier on were now acceptable. Women not only in the workplace but in some businesses were the boss. Kids no longer thinking of their Dad’s as the smartest nor the toughest, or even the most dependable man they could think about. It marked the change in men's and women's relationships and roles. Suddenly, STRENGTH didn’t mean being silent and not showing you felt emotions. Now, men seemed to be developing an awareness of their variety of emotions, emotions beyond just anger which usually led to fighting. Some men became shameless in the act of not being afraid to express their full range of emotions.

In Life, we observed and perhaps began to understand that nothing is constant save Change. The small voices of transition whispered to us constantly of the obvious, that we must embrace conscious adaptability to oncoming events, or be lost in the upcoming storms of change, like a mind blinded in the falling rains of confusion.

A new paradigm for mankind has been evolving through societal forces creating changes within the species, perhaps an opportunity to break through old stereotypes, perhaps even to gain a higher sense of Consciousness, Soul, Self (you choose your choice of words). It is in one’s thinking that this new archetypal man will be realized.  Perhaps a model that encompasses dimensions beyond the blueprint of our five senses.  Something more substantial, more in line with what science, physics, and philosophy say is “the real” about you, instead of blindly reacting from prehistoric sensory testimony, that may be faulty in this day and age, and led us to demonize emotions. 

As an example instead of seeing Fear as the emotions of blind rage, as a howling animal, in a false sense of powerlessness that rages through the mind and body, we can now by using the new paradigm stop, reflect, recognize, and Consciously be aware that FEAR is a tool in our human toolbox, tools that are combinable and interchangeable, to all human beings.

The fear factor, once in time, if unchecked, could easily turn to anger, for the fear emotion is an attempt to protect the body and mind from harm and thus could erupt as anger when situations appear confined, limiting, or hopeless. It is only by engaging our thought processes in releasing the emotion into the pursuit of Change, coupling thought and emotions, to bring understanding through harnessing the emotions can we move towards utilization of optimal results in action and solutions. The new paradigm of male on man hones the understanding of emotions, such as anger, to give access to their proper purpose as a temporal energy indicator that spikes and alerts us. We then have coupled its use for choices or possibilities in a larger array of action to take or decisions to be made in any given situation for a variety of Outcomes on our journey through life.

Anger for example coupled with conscious intuition can become a tool of change, that prepares us to commit to change. These connective and interchangeable tools in our emotional toolbox means going well beyond the misunderstood activation of only a single emotion. Fear alone, left to its own devices, could lead to misunderstood beliefs of being unable to move, or blind flight, or being worthless, and even finally being enslaved to rage in a journey of unresolved helpless battles.

As we become consciously aware of our increased options, we see there is always more to the journey, so we get up and suit up to take full advantage of the options along life’s journey. Fear then can be seen as the sound chimed from the alarm clock, the emotional jump starter.

The New Male on Man is a retooling of our brain, of our conscious awake state, to be effective, empowering the conscious use of our senses and emotions, to adapt to evolving change for our long-term benefits.

I am a believer in having a shameless array of emotions considered in the conversations when the goal is to lead to a compassionate solution. We need to trust in the resilience and the integrity of Mankind to evolve in a joint contract with the natural order of Life, thus not to wait for the world to change but consciously participating as a focused agent of change. Our focus then is trusting in the process of human beings becoming their own source of renewal by gaining and understanding the methods of change and responding with constructive actions.

Thus, to answer the question “What is expected of me?” - means listening to the answer that is echoed back to us from the new paradigm, of the new Male on man, to understand first we are Consciousness and that we live by conscious action. As ‘Action,’ I mean “To Move,” therefore we - move, steer, navigate in an ocean of Conscious Change. That implies a bond, even a Loving bond with Change. We then are change makers, the co-creator in the evolutionary process of Life, and the discoverer of awakened Truth unfolding.

If you enjoyed this article, please leave a comment below.  My Coaching and Mentor services are available, so call and let's talk.

Calvin

A Contemplation on Mailboxes and Gender by Gevork Anderyassian

This SOC piece of writing is from a new writer to the Library Coffeehouse Writers Group in Long Beach, Ca., Gevork Anderyassian his name.  Whom we are pleased to welcome to our group and to California. He is a Transplant of the UK from England.

A Contemplation on Mailboxes and Gender by Gevork Anderyassian

Black and white, boys and girls, yin and yang, on and off, left and right, good and bad, how primal minds compartmentalize everything to survive.

What is the upshot of this pigeonholing? I guess like all the other junk mail that ends up in the door slot of your mind or post box, it needs sorting. Like the postman, I sort looking for labels that would suggest “M” for Male. You see I live in M world, for I am a Man thus, the mail carrier delivering the mail goes through the stacks for the identifiable labels such as …. a bill, check, that’s me M. Then there is a Macy’s humm, ok, check.  A Car part’s catalogue, check … oh, but wait, how could this be, perhaps a desire?

On the contrary, car part’s catalogue?, for a man with no ability to perform or understand cars, The postman would be scratching his head on this day, but the route is long, and  his time is short, thus he must move on, so in the slot goes what you should be doing, what you should be reading, as well as everything else.

We all get mail, mail even we don’t want, but in the slot it goes all that wasted print from the senders' end, and then all that effort just to get it in your mail, only then to be thrown from your mailbox into your trash.

Perhaps I’ve rebelled my whole life, not subscribing to macho roles or feminine ideals, we are after all just human, and to be categorize further is redundant and not worth nothing except as a marketers slogan.

Myself I would be enamored with a top rated female mechanic or impressed with the man with an extensive antique perfume bottle collection. These are just reminders that we are all the same mailbox.

ReImaging 2017 the Evolution of Your Goals and Resolutions

2016 has been a year of growth, a year of solutions and a year of change. Not in that particular order, As we start moving towards our New Year's resolutions and goals, three tips I would like to pass on to you in reimaging 2017, with success where it may not have been before. Needless to say, you will need to be resolute to your goals and resolutions, to help with this endeavor you may want to make a commitment to a plan to help create a solution to those detractors (yourself included) such as tuning out the noise and diversions both internally as well as externally that would steal your focus and vision.

• Trust your conviction: It could get very lonely when everyone says you're going to fail. You just got to trust the power of your own conviction. That does not mean that you have not consciously dig deep to examine and figure out what you truly believe in, what you truly are passionate about, and when you have, then is when you trust your gut and move towards your conclusions.

• Be practical: practical meaning being frugal with your spending both with currency and time. Take a hard look and get help if needed to really understand your goals be it personal and or business and or both. Get a handle on the cost structure be it in time money, patience, and endurance. Be willing to pay the price of focused attention to eventually turn a profit. Make sure you’re very focused on your time and currency flow so that you’re in control of your own destiny and can create balance where needed.

• Stay focused: Know what you're trying to attain, solve or accomplish will be reach because you are applying a flexible conscious focus. That is adaptive insights, making changes or corrections to your plan through fly efforts. Don’t get distracted by the big picture, trying to solve too big a problem at one time, instead you work on a segment of the project until you’ve really done it well, then build on that success.

All success is working the process, your outcome may morph and change but that is because you have embraced the infinite possibilities of the Unknown and your life in turn will surprise you. 

You see what a man does for pay is of little significance. What he allows himself to reveal and manifest along the way, such as being a sensitive instrument to direct and respond to the world's beauty, is profitable.

Fortunately what cures stupid and broke is not turning from failure, but continually learning from your mistakes and making the corrections, rectifications and then having the courage to do the next thing. That’s all you have to do. Regret of the past or anxiety of the future are the thieves of the present and your success. Welcome to reimaging you.

- Calvin

Thank you for Being Late

An Optimist’s Guide to Thriving in the Age of Accelerations
by Thomas L. Friedman

By Calvin Harris, HW,M

I ran across a review of a book called: “Thank You For Being Late.”  Which resonated with me, being that, I was someone who had been stranded 30 miles from home due to a ‘Bro’s’, feeling that I was not moving fast enough for him, so he drove off and left me in the dust. Needless to say, the Book title, ‘Thank You for Being Late’, caught my interest and I wanted to hear what the reviewer had to say about the book and what I called “Making time for leisure.”

The author of the book, Thomas L. Friedman, seems to hint at validating my notions about ‘conscious leisure living’ and concepts of time. Friedman’s discourse is about the paces of change in technology, globalization, and climate. The core argument Friedman has is “simultaneous acceleration in the Commerce Market, the Natural World, and Moore’s law (the principle that the power of microchips doubles every two years) constitutes the “Age of Accelerations.”

The upshot of all of this is ‘acceleration creates fear and unmoors people.’ This causes panic or the fight, flight, or freeze response, a sign of many people becoming out of touch with themselves. Rather than panic such as reacting with fear and anger, Friedman, like myself, offers personal recommendations for coping with accelerations, such as to slow down, “pause and reflect” on your self-motivation, your lifelong learning, and the need to encourage more people to follow the Golden Rule.

Rather than having societies of people feeling fearful or unmoored from their sense of self, have them take time for leisure, meaning time for themselves to get anchored to Truth and to Source. Our Job is to find Source in our living and the value it provides, then to make it available to others. That can mean taking time to reach deep and discovering in yourself, the value you must share with the world. If you would like a more in-depth consultation, please contact me directly at things2cal@gmail.com

Side Notes About This Book
     
Friedman’s intriguing facts and ideas, can be all unburied in the 496-pages of this book. There are many a reader or researcher who is interested in the many autobiographical anecdotes and lengthy recollections about the circumstances of interviews he conducted and research he completed. Thus the reader is getting the recipe and history of all the ingredients along with the meal. You can obtain the book Thomas L. Friedman. Farrar, Straus and Giroux, $28 ISBN 978-0-374-27353-8 or as an Ebook - 978-0-374-71514-4. For those interested in the book but time is an issue it is also on
Compact Disc - 978-1-4272-7466-3

Three Simple Tips to Feel Self-directed and Accomplished

James Ronald Ryun is an American track and field athlete who reminds us that “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”

Stephen Covey recommends you decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – Pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically – to say ‘no’ to other things ... And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ for your higher priorities burning inside.”

Here are 3 simple tips for feeling accomplished and on track.

1.)    Start Small

A tiny habit is easier to stick to — Pick something, a project, a workout, etc. Your goal is to make it effortless and encompasses your priorities!  This habit should take you little time to do. say no more than 10 -30 minutes a day,

that first week, aim to complete this goal just three times, in the first week, then increase that number once your habit feels natural.

2.)   When to do it

If you have a habit already in place then hitchhike off that habit, having a habit that is already second nature, will be a good time to transition into scheduling a new habit right after. An example is to add a new habit right after eating breakfast or just after a physical workout. Think about your day and vacant time slots, when can you spare a moment to insert a new habit? Pairing new habits with an existing habit can help make it seamless.

3.)  Practice makes perfect

You’ll probably need a few nudges before your new habit becomes second nature. That's why siteofcontact.net subscribers can jot a note to me under the heading Habit Building Reminders and I will send an email alert on the day of the week, you request it.

The more regularly you practice, the more quickly Habits will become just another part of your life.

“If you do not pour water on your plant, what will happen? It slowly withers and dies. Our habits will also slowly wither and die away if we do not give them an opportunity to manifest. You need not fight to stop a habit. Just don’t give it an opportunity to repeat itself.” – Yogi Swami Satchidananda.

So to recap feeling self-directed and accomplished, turn priorities into a manageable habit - Starts small – Pair it with something you are already doing - Be consistent.  Now that you know the secret, begin your habit setting journey now, and jot me a line now and again about how you are doing.

Calvin

7 Tips to Cultivate Your Style

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Gandhi

Happiness I found means different things to different people, some it’s money, others more sex (or some sex), then again, other people it is feeling less or no isolation or the need to be lonely, still others gain security in knowing that they are effective in their actions, and things can happen the way they feel they should.  

This blog is about learning about your charisma, and actions that can help you connect to it. Therefore, allowing you to reconnect to events or people in such a way to have you feel a part of something bigger and move forward.

The following seven tips require you to remain conscious of your actions, as you take courage to move your life forward and there in reveal and perfect your signature style.

1)    Be aware of what gets you excited, of what moves you, what you like or gives you passions to do things.

2)   Learn where your attitudes of likes and dislikes might have come from, then how to change them if necessary. 

3)   Pay attention to how you define your purpose or what you want to achieve in life and be accountable to reaching your goal.

4)   Focus on moving forward with agility.  Include your readiness to learn and use new concepts and techniques combined with what you know to bring about new concepts and creations.

5)   Be coachable, with attributes of being curious and grateful.

6)   Be aware of your Body Language and how it effects your results. Now this will need you to see some humor and the ability to laugh at yourself and your life as situations become awkward or stressful in your reinventing yourself. 

7)   Strive to work with the courage to see things through, or know when to stop action, because it is finished as defined by your purpose.  

Your signature style will appear with an air of synchronicity once you’ve begun the conscious work. Oh, and I would suggest keeping a journey to capture every step of your adventure even the scary parts--this is October after all.

In closing, I leave you with a favorite quote - Vincent Van Gogh:

“I am always doing what I cannot do yet, to learn how to do it.”