Tools for A Self-Directed Life

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Random Thoughts on Inspiration and Creativity

Breathe in, Breathe out, it is in this rhythmic process that we truly function and have our life fully lived. While I was sitting and paying attention to my breathing, watching the thoughts that where passing through my consciousness, my attention went to productivity and creative process.

I stopped here in my thoughts, I pondered. Many creative people, who may not even be aware that they are creative, will often spend their lives looking to consume the world around them and forget to also be productive that is to say bring about their own creations.

Like breathing, it is not an either /or situation but both, a rhythmic process of breathing in, and breathing out. So yes, you want to consume or catch fire with the ideas of other people, but don't ignore the power of your own actions to process that information for change, that is to inspire both you and others. The best fuel for this comes from the application of ideas, rather than the consumption of them.

Breathe in…You could say that it is easy to spend all your time searching for inspiration, that’s like breathing in. You would be rewarded with all kinds of finds - incredible videos, music, articles, emails, and news stories, from all sorts of source including your friends. But the only ones that truly matters are the types of inspiration that can be apply to your own goals.

Make no mistake: it's important to be a learner, any successful person in any field has to be able to soak up new information. Finding inspiration and motivation in the work and success of others, that is the action of breathing in.

But here's the problem: what has been breathe in and consumed must finish the process and breathe out again.. Acknowledging others success isn't the same thing as creating your own.

Instead, it is through the process of getting inspiration — activating that information in some form of creative act i.e.- trying out something for the first time, even failing at it, to learn how to better apply new ideas is our goals, and making mistakes is part of it— discovering who we are and what is important to us.

Inspiration is the fuel of long—term passion and enthusiasm. Working with new ideas making them your own through taking action and working them so they apply to your life will inspire you more than anything someone else could do or say.

Know that you need the learning and listening skills that can help you think about things in different ways, but by experimenting, reworking to create, and produce these ideas in to new ways of being, now that is what will give you momentum and propel you forward.

“If you come across a good idea, use it. We spend so much time trying to find more inspirational things to consume that it can be easy for us to forget that the best form of inspiration comes from what we create”. – Author James Clear

Now Breathe out.

Engaging your Distinctive Character is more than a Unit of Information

HEY GUYS,

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Artist Jason Beamguard photo Minnesota 2012

Having a better life can be likened to modification in restoring an old car. You transform it in your mind first, that is, decide what are you wanting to do with it. Then you go about getting the necessary information and parts needed for that type of transformation, and only then do you begin the work on it.  When it’s done people say – you’ve brought out that cars unique “Character.”  Like that car’s character,  your modifications to self brings out your real character. It requires active participation in challenging new experiences, but not without first conscious reflection upon your encounters in life, and a purpose or direction in which you want those alterations to take you. New experiences alone will not result in core personality changes without the formation of thoughts that can produce your new habits. You see our habits reveal our character. Only by thinking and acting differently does a person attain that quality of character that they seek.

 

It's about engaging with that bright hope that life offers, a hope that makes us brave and expels darkness with light. It does not happen without being able to reflect on yourself, maybe even  laugh at yourself, to allow yourself whimsy, and a love for what you do, and most of all the abandonment of worry of who’s watching.

So empower the rest of your year. Give a look through the list of activities in our Calendar section  and find some new favorite activity to engage in and make it a part of your own regular routine of habits.

Urge For Adventure January 2019

Looking towards the Future Mike Harris & Chris Asher

Looking towards the Future Mike Harris & Chris Asher

January 2019 Fun, Interesting & Offbeat  Celebrations

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January 2019 Monthly Events

 

Adopt A Rescued Bird Month

Bath Safety Month

Be Kind to Food Servers  Month

Birth Defects Month

Black Diamond Month

Book Blitz Month

California Dried Plum Digestive Month

Celebration of Life Month

Cervical Health Awareness Month

Children Impacted By Parent's Cancer Month

Clap 4 Health Month

Financial Wellness Month

Get A Balanced Life Month

Get Organized Month

International Brain Teaser Month

Int'l. Change Your Stars Month Link

Int'l. Child-Centered Divorce Month

International Creativity Month

Int'l. New Year’s Resolutions for Businesses Month

International Quality of Life Month

International Wayfinding Month

International Wealth Mentality Month

Learn to Ski and Snowboard Month

Menudo Month 

National Be On-Purpose Month

Nat’l National Braille Literacy Month

Nat’l National Clean Up Your Computer Month

Nat’l National Codependency Awareness Month

National Glaucoma Awareness Month

National Hot Tea Month

Nat’l National Mail Order Gardening Month

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National Mentoring Month

Nat’l National Personal Self-Defense Awareness Month

Nat’l National Personal Trainer Awareness Month

National Polka Music Month

Nat’l National Poverty in America Awareness Month

National Radon Action Month

National Skating Month

National Soup Month

Nat’l Slavery & Human Trafficking Prevention Month

National Stalking Awareness Month

National Sunday Supper Month

Nat’l Volunteer Blood Donor Month

Oatmeal Month

Self-help Group Awareness Month

Self-Love Month

Shape Up US Month

Teen Driving Awareness Month

Train Your Dog Month

Thyroid Awareness Month

Walk Your Pet Month

Worldwide Rising Star Month



January 2019 Multi-Day & Weekly Events

Carnival Season: Jan 06-March 05

Diet Resolution Week: Jan 01-07

New Year's Resolutions Week: Jan 01- 08 

Silent Record Week

Silent Record Week

Silent Record Week: Jan 01-07

Someday We'll Laugh About This Week: Jan 02- 08

Home Office Safety and Security Week: Jan 06-12

Nat’l Folic Acid Awareness Week: Jan 06-12

Dating & Life Coaches Recognition Week: Jan 06-12

National Lose Weight/Feel Great Week: Jan 06-12

Elvis' Birthday Celebration Week: Jan 07- 09

Int'l Consumer Electronics Show: Jan 08 -11

No Tillage Week: Jan 08 -11

National Soccer Coaches of America Week: Jan 09 -13

National Mocktail Week: Jan 13-19

Hot Heads Chili Days: Jan 17-18

Nat’l Fresh Squeezed Juice Week: Jan 17-23

Week of Christian Unity: Jan 18-25

Bald Eagle Appreciation : Jan 19-20

Int'l  Snowmobile Safety & Awareness Week: Jan 19-27

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Clean Out Your Inbox Week: Jan 20-26

Healthy Weight Week: Jan 20-26

Hunt For Happiness Week: Jan 20-26

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Projecting Professionalism

Nat’l Activity Professionals Week: Jan 20-26 


Nat’l Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetists Week: Jan 20-26

National Handwriting Analysis Week: Jan 20-26

National School Choice Week: Jan 20-26

Sugar Awareness Week: Jan 20-26

No Name Calling Week: Jan 21-25

International Hoof-Care Week: Jan 22-25 

Sundance Film Festival: Jan 24- Feb 03

Meat Week: Jan 27- Feb 03

National Medical Group Practice Week: Jan 28- Feb 03

Tax  Theft Awareness Week: Jan 28- Feb 03

US Nat’l Snow Sculpting Days: Jan 28-Feb 03

January 2019 Daily Events

Jan 01 Tue      Bad Hangover Day

Jan 01 Tue       Copyright Law Day

Jan 01 Tue       Commitment Day

Global Family

Global Family

Jan 01 Tue       Ellis Island Day

Jan 01 Tue       Euro Day

Jan 01 Tue       Fruit Cake Toss Day

Jan 01 Tue       First Foot Day

Jan 01 Tue       Global Family Day

Jan 01 Tue       Mummer's Parade

Jan 01 Tue       New Year’s Day

Jan 01 Tue       New Year's Dishonor List Day

Jan 01 Tue       Polar Bear Plunge or Swim

Jan 01 Tue       Public Domain Day

Jan 01 Tue       Rose Bowl Game

Jan 01 Tue       Tournament of Roses Parade Day

Jan 01 Tue       World Day of Peace

Jan 01 Tue      Persons Surnames Z Day

 

Jan 02 Wed      Cats Day

Jan 02 Wed      National Buffet Day

Jan 02 Wed      National Motivation and Inspiration Day

Jan 02 Wed      National Personal Trainer Awareness

Jan 02 Wed      National Science Fiction Day

Jan 02 Wed     Pet Travel and Safety Day

 

Jan 03 Thu       Drinking Straw Day

Jan 03 Thu       Earth at Perihelion

Jan 03 Thu       J.R.R. Tolkien Day

Jan 03 Thu       Memento Mori "Remember You Die" Day

Jan 03 Thu       National Chocolate Covered Cherry Day

Jan 03 Thu       Festival of Sound Sleep Day



Jan 04 Fri         Dimpled Chad Day

Jan 04 Fri         I Am A Mentor Day

Jan 04 Fri         Pop Music Chart Day

Jan 04 Fri         Tom Thumb Day

Jan 04 Fri         Trivia Day

Jan 04 Fri         World Braille Day

Jan 04 Fri         World Hypnotism Day

 Jan 05 Sat        Bird Day

Jan 05 Sat        National Keto Day

Jan 05 Sat        Nat’l Screenwriters Day

Jan 05 Sat        Monopoly Game Day

Jan 05 Sat        Twelfth Day

 

Jan 06 Sun       Cuddle Up Day

Jan 06 Sun       Armenian Christmas

Jan 06 Sun       Epiphany

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Jan 06 Sun       National Technology Day

Jan 06 Sun       No Pants Subway Ride Day

Jan 06 Sun       Three Kings Day



 

Jan 07 Mon      Asarah B'Tevet

Jan 07 Mon      Blue Monday

Jan 07 Mon      Divorce Monday

Jan 07 Mon      Golden Globes

Jan 07 Mon      Handsel Day

Jan 07 Mon      Harlem Globetrotter's Day

Jan 07 Mon      I'm Not Going To Take It Anymore Day

Jan 07 Mon      International Programmers' Day

Jan 07 Mon      Orthodox Christmas

Jan 07 Mon      National Bobble-head Day

Jan 07 Mon      National Tempura Day

Jan 07 Mon      National Weigh-In Day

Jan 07 Mon      Plough Monday

Jan 07 MonThank God It's Monday



Jan 08 Tue       Bubble Bath Day

Jan 08 Tue        Man Watcher's Day

Jan 08 Tue       Argyle Day

Jan 08 Tue       Earth's Rotation Day

Jan 08 Tue       National English Toffee Day

Jan 08 Tue       National Poetry at Work Day

National Shop for Travel Day

National Shop for Travel Day

Jan 08 Tue       National Shop For Travel Day

Jan 08 Tue       Midwife's Day or Women's Day

Jan 08 Tue       National Joy Germ Day

Jan 08 Tue       National Winter Skin Relief Day

Jan 08 Tue       Show and Tell Day at Work

Jan 08 Tue       War on Poverty Day

  

Jan 09 Wed       Balloon Ascension Day

Jan 09 Wed       Dance Day

Jan 09 Wed       Law Enforcement Appreciation Day

Jan 09 Wed       National Cassoulet Day:

Jan 09 Wed       National Static Electricity Day

Jan 09 Wed       Panama's Martyr Day


Jan 10 Thu League of Nations Day

Jan 10 Thu       Honor Peculiar People Day

Jan 10 Thu       Nat’l Cut Your Energy Costs Day

Jan 10 Thu       National Oysters Rockefeller Day

 

Jan 11 Fri         Cigarettes Hazard Awareness Day

Jan 11 Fri         Morse Code Day

Jan 11 Fri         Nat’l Human Trafficking Awareness Day

Jan 11 Fri         National Milk Day

Jan 11 Fri         Secret Pal Day

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Jan 12 Sat        Eagle Day

Jan 12 Sat        Feast Your Eyes on Fabulous Wild Men Day

Jan 12 Sat        National Hot Tea Day

Jan 12 Sat        National Vision Board Day

Jan 12 Sat        Kiss A Ginger Day (Red Heads)

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Jan 13 Sun       Rubber Duckie Day

Jan 13 Sun       Bodhi Day (Rohatsu)

Jan 13 Sun       Korean American Day

Jan 13 Sun       Make Your Dream Come True Day

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Jan 13 Sun       National Sticker Day

Jan 13 Sun       National Sunday Supper Day

Jan 13 Sun       Public Radio Broadcasting Day

 

 Jan 14 Mon      Caesarean Section Day

Jan 14 Mon      Dress Up Your Pet Day

Jan 14 Mon      International Kite Day

Jan 14 Mon      National Clean Off Your Desk Day

Jan 14 Mon      Organize Your Home Day

Jan 14 Mon      Ratification Day

 

Jan 15 Tue       Alpha Kappa Alpha Day

Jan 15 Tue       Humanitarian Day

Jan 15 Tue       Martin Luther King Jr.'s Birthday

Jan 15 Tue       National Bagel Day

Jan 16 Wed      Appreciate A Dragon Day

Jan 16 Wed      Civil Service Day

Jan 16 Wed      Doing absolutely Nothing Day

Jan 16 Wed      Fig Newton Day

Jan 16 Wed      National Quinoa Day

Jan 16 Wed      Religious Freedom Day

Jan 16 Wed      Without A Scalpel Day

 

Jan 17 Thu        Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day

Jan 17 Thu        Cable Car Day

Jan 17 Thu        Get to Know Your Customers Day

Mentoring Day

Mentoring Day

Jan 1 7 Thu        International Mentoring Day

Jan 17 Thu        Muhammad Ali's birthday

Jan 17 Thu        Judgment Day

Jan 17 Thu        Kid Inventors' Day

Jan 17 Thu        National Bootleggers Day

Jan 17 Thu        Popeye Day

 

Jan 18 Fri          Bean Day

Jan 18 Fri          International Fetish Day

Jan 18 Fri          Thesaurus Day

Jan 18 Fri          Winnie the Pooh Day

 

Jan 19 Sat        Brew A Potion Day

Jan 19 Sat        Popcorn Day

Jan 19 Sat        Tin Can Day

Jan 19 Sat        Whisper, 'I Love You' Day

Jan 19 Sat        World Day of Migrants and Refugees

Jan 19 Sat        World Quark Day


Jan 20 Sun       Camcorder Day

Celebration of Life Day

Celebration of Life Day

Jan 20 Sun       Celebration of Life Day

Jan 20 Sun       Inauguration Day

Jan 20 Sun       National Cheese Lovers Day

Jan 20 Sun       National Disc Jockey Day

Jan 20 Sun       National Pro-Life Day

Jan 20 Sun       Penguin Awareness Day

Jan 20 Sun       Stephen Foster Day

Jan 20 Sun       World Religion Day

Jan 20 Sun       World Snow Day

 

Jan 21 Mon     Tu B'Shvat (Sundown)

Jan 21 Mon      Martin Luther King Day

Jan 21 Mon      National Crowd Feed Day

Jan 21 Mon      National Day of Service

Jan 21 Mon      National Hugging Day

Jan 21 Mon      Rid World Fad Diets & Gimmicks Day

       

Jan 22 Tue       Celebration of life day

Jan 22 Tue       Come in from the  cold day

Jan 22 Tue       Roe vs. Wade Day


Jan 23 Wed      National Handwriting Day

Jan 23 Wed      Measure Your Feet Day

Jan 23 Wed      National Pie Day

Jan 23 Wed      Snowplow Mailbox Hockey Day

 

Jan 24 Thu       Beer Can Day

Jan 24 Thu       Belly Laugh Day

Jan 24 Thu       Int’l Mobile Phone Recycling Day

Jan 24 Thu       National Compliment Day

Jan 24 Thu       National Peanut Butter Day

Jan 24 Thu       Talk Like A Grizzled Prospector Day

 

 Jan 25 Fri        A Room of One's Own Day

Jan 25 Fri         Fun at Work Day

Jan 25 Fri         Macintosh Computer 30th Anniversary Day

Jan 25 Fri        National Big Wig Day

Jan 25 Fri         National Irish Coffee Day

Jan 25 Fri         National Pre-school Fitness Day

Jan 25 Fri         Opposite Day

Jan 25 Fri         Robert Burns Day

Jan 25 Fri         Thank Your Mentor Day

Jan 25 Fri         Women's Healthy Weight Day

Jan 25 Fri         Fancy Rat & Mouse Day

Jan 25 Fri         Dental Drill Appreciation Day

Jan 25 Fri         Fruitcake Toss Day

Jan 25 Fri         Lotus 1-2-3 Day

Jan 25 Fri         National Peanut Brittle Day

National Seed Swap Day

National Seed Swap Day

Jan 25 Fri         National Seed Swap Day

Jan 25 Fri         Toad Hollow Day of Encouragement

Jan 25 Fri         Visit Your Local Quilt Shop Day

 

Jan 26 Sat        International Customs Day

 

Jan 27 Sun       Auschwitz Liberation Day

Jan 27 Sun        Chocolate Cake Day

Jan 27 Sun       Compliment Day

Jan 27 Sun       Intl Commemoration Holocaust Day

Jan 27 Sun       National Bible Sunday

Jan 27 Sun       National Geographic Day

Jan 27 Sun       Punch the clock day

Jan 27 Sun        Squirrel Appreciation Day

Jan 27 Sun       Thomas Crapper Day

Jan 27 Sun       Viet Nam Peace Day

Jan 27 Sun       World Leprosy Day 



Jan 28 Mon      Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day

Jan 28 Mon      Data Privacy Day

Jan 28 Mon      Daisy Day

Jan 28 Mon      Grammy Awards

Jan 28 Mon      Gone-ta-pott Day

Jan 28 Mon      National Kazoo Day

Jan 28 Mon      National Pediatrician Day

Jan 28 Mon      Rubber Duckie Day

Jan 28 Mon      Thank A Plugin Developer Day

 

Jan 29 Tue       Curmudgeons Day

Jan 29 Tue       Freethinkers Day

Jan 29 Tue       Library Shelfie Day

Jan 29 Tue       National Plan For A Vacation Day

Jan 29 Tue       National Puzzle Day

Jan 29 Tue       Seeing Eye Dog Day

Jan 29 Tue       Thomas Paine Day

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Jan 30 Wed      Croissant Day

Jan 30 Wed      Escape Day

Jan 30 Wed      Inane Answering Message Day



 

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Jan 31 Thu       Inspire with Art  Day

Jan 31 Thu       Backward Day

Jan 31 Thu       Hell is Freezing over Day

Jan 31 Thu       Appreciate Social Security Day

Jan 31 Thu       Street Children Day















Tools For The Self Directed Life

An Effective Strategy To Keeping Your Focus

 By Calvin Harris H. W., M.

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We are daily bombarded with more information and communications, sometimes its call new and improved, and the pitch we receive is that to get it will allow us to  Have it all, be it all, and do it all. Particularly if it applies to our careers. Sometimes we think that utilizing all the new information that comes our way, is the only path to success.

The result is, you find yourself spending more hours, downloading cool new apps, and trying to keep up on social media. Now I ask you, how is that working out for you?

Inherent in that behavior is the risk factor of burnout. You can find your time and energy being drained away and add to that  Instant connectivity through our phones and computers and your time and energy is really gone, and yet, the time for your path to success becomes less and less and is really under pressure to happen at all.

Have it all, be it all, and do it all. .  is a lot easier said than done.  To say “yes,” too often means ending up overwhelmed. But how do you prioritize competing priorities to stay ahead without driving yourself crazy?

You need to stop, step back, review and analyze where your attention has gone, then recalibrate new habits to invest your attention wisely to get ahead.

 

I Suggest An Attention Charter

Book Deep Work by Cal Newport

Book Deep Work by Cal Newport

A quick overview about an Attention Charter and Why  You would want to  create one. Starts with a Georgetown University computer science professor, Blogger, and author named Cal[vin] Newport. Newport popularized the Attention Charter in his writings about the “intersection of technology and society.“ In his blog - Study Hacks Decoding Patterns Of Success, He points out the impact of new technologies on our ability to perform productive work and to lead satisfying lives.

TheAttention Charter is a document that lists the general reasons that you’ll allow for someone or something to lay claim to your time and attention. For each reason, it then describes under what conditions and for what quantities [of time] you’ll permit this commitment.” – says Mr. Newport.

It takes a bit of effort to create these guidelines and then set them as habits, but once you do, your attention is no longer distracted whenever something comes along demanding your immediate attention. Instead of reacting in the moment—and thus losing sight of what’s truly important—you would follow your outline charter.

This helps you own your time, and to be more intentional with it. You’re the one setting the limits and yes, that can be scary, but it can lead to better results. You could even spend fewer hours in a week working on projects and yet find that a greater portion of your time is spent being proactive on what actually matters.

That extra time, could be used to take better care of yourself, maintain healthier relationships, and maybe even to sleep better!

 

 

How to Create an Attention Charter

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Your Attention Charter is a list of guidelines to help you weigh competing priorities.

It is not a blanket ban on all of your activities. Emails, phone calls, and meetings are going to happen it is inevitable. The trick is coming up with the right proportion  of time vs activity to be vital in keeping to your visions of success, while not having these activities distract from reaching that success. In fact some of these activities can be an integral part of your equation for achieving success by focusing on the big picture.

For example, you might limit yourself to:

  • Only attending meetings with a 60-minute time limit and a clearly defined agenda

  • Not to respond to text messages between certain hours (9 and 5 ) unless it’s during a break, lunch, or an emergency

  • Not to access a certain website (social media, porno, etc.) during certain times frames of your day.

  • Not to schedule social or professional contacts for 3-hour lunches more than twice a month

  • To travel to a educational/ industry/professional  conference each quarter

You decide the guidelines. They can be as general or specific as you like. Notice how the examples above aren’t too strict. They allow for certain exceptions or situations where you would want to engage in the activities. It’s not about banning things; it’s about being more intentional with our choices.

Your focus is to think through the different ways you could limit distraction. Once developed, you want to have this list available, written down on paper or on your computer, or laptop or phone for reference when you need it.

Radhika Nagpal, a computer science professor, used some of these principles to earn tenure at Harvard. She calculated the maximum number of hours she could devote to her career each week without neglecting her family. Working from that limit, she created rules for herself (like traveling only five times a year) that allowed her to advance her career without getting burned out by unimportant distractions.

 

Enforcing Your Attention Charter

Okay, you’ve created your Attention Charter, and you are ready to make them habits. You might find  when getting started it tougher to stick to it, or you slip up, at first that’s okay. Do the best you can. The point is to practice and exercise the new habits when you can. Just a few better choices each day really add up.

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You might, like me, have to confront some bad habits you’ve been struggling with for a while now. In moving pass bad habits Willpower will only get you so far, yet conscious focus and practicing the tools will keep you on track.  

Computer or Apps Junkies might find Website blocking apps empowering in blocking distracting websites, apps, or even the entire internet during hours when you need to be productive.

Small steps or goals at first, there’s no shame in starting small. After you become comfortable with the habits you’ve set with those guidelines, you can gradually add more. Your Attention Charter will evolve with time too, as the new habits become a natural part of your daily process.


 Make Better Choices—Without the Burnout

A workday can feel a lot like an obstacle course or tug-of-war for your attention.

Fortunately, by developing a focused attention on new  habits, like in the use of an Attention Charter, it will help you choose which direction to move without responding to compulsions  in the moment.

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Like Mr. Newport, I have to admit  I’m still monkeying around with my own attention charter. In other words, you’re hearing about this as a fledgling project, before I’ve made it into full functioning habits. Yet I’ve already found value in it, as one of us whose battle against distraction both unavoidably important and unavoidably nuances.

 

I’d like you to try it and then email me a comment and let me know what you think!

Living Your Priorities

The Power of Consistency

How small habits repeated consistently turn into big things by Calvin Harris

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 The truth is, the process of success and achieving your wildest dreams is not a matter of Will-Power or positive thought, as much as the Simple habit of showing up day after day.

When you show up with focused attention day in, day out for a set period of time, no matter how small, it’s inevitable you will reach where you truly want to be. Opportunities will begin to present themselves.

Author, Ayodeji Awosika, says:

 “When you show up and keep putting your work out there, good things start to happen. You make new connections, people reach out to you, opportunities start to present themselves.”  

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 But before we get there, Austin Kleon a writer and artist living in Austin, Texas who wrote the book “Steal Like An Artist”,  makes the observation - “Lots of people want to be the noun without doing the verb. They want the job title without the work.”

The world seems to be facing an epidemic, and are in shock right now and that is because everyone wants to be successful, yet no one is willing to put in the work to be successful. You Can’t Be the Noun Without Doing the Verb.

We as a culture have become instant gratification seeking drones, that have been dumbed down and turned into dopamine seeking instant messaging, Facebook likes, and Netflix zombies at the expense of our dreams and desires.

For many, it is easier to simply talk about the work, rather than to actually do the work. What I mean by doing the work is to put into action the power of thinking, and comprehending, an orderly and rational way to carry out activities. While in the motion of carrying out those activities one arrives at a state of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Blogger Anthony Moore suggest:

“Most people will continue getting high on the dopamine of solely “dreaming” and journaling about their ideal life, without ever doing any meaningful work to make those goals happen.”

I go along with the idea that  ‘Its time’ that people start realizing you can’t be the noun without doing the verb.

You can’t be an athlete, if you never train.

You can’t be a writer, if you don’t write.

You can’t be a mathematician without using the principles of mathematics.

In what areas of your life, are you calling yourself the noun without doing the verb? It’s time to get consistent.

 

 

‘Consistency’, Anthony Moore puts it this way

 “Consistency is a bit like a million dollars. Everyone wants it, everyone knows it will make their life better, but it seems impossible to ever achieve it.”

Becoming consistent at anything you want is not elusive, it can be as simple as rethinking badly formed habits or finding how things are being put in the wrong order. To start forming new habits.

This does not mean, that this correction, or becoming the best version of yourself is likely to happen overnight, old behaviors don’t shake loose that easily.

Start with small steps. Focus on constancy and frequency, rather than intensity and allow the habit to slowly become a natural part of your Being. Become the Conscious builder of your life. Srinivas Rao wrote,

“Build the identity of the person you want to become.”

Blogger Reece Robertson tells us:

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 “This is preciously how I developed my morning journaling habit. I didn’t force myself to write an entry straight away. Rather, I would get up every morning, write the date in my journal, and then close it again.

Once that was a natural part of my morning routine, I began to journal for 15 minutes before getting into my reading and writing and haven’t stopped since.

Start small, learn the routine, and develop a process you can stick to.”

 

 

To recap, own the fact that you want to build the identity of the person you want to become. That you will cultivate the power of consistency. That you will make a pact with yourself to show up today, tomorrow, the day after that, and so on.

It will be a certainty that your life would be very different in a year.

Own that You are done holding yourself back, and you will be making more progress. having more joy and satisfaction from life. To develop more confidence, through self-discovery of being the Noun by your action as the Verb.

It starts now.

The majority of goals people pursue don’t require innate talent, or working a 12-hour a day — in most cases, they lack old-fashion consistency.” -Zdravko Cvijetic (content creator, entrepreneur and the founder of Zero to Skill).

Urge For Adventure December 2018

December 2018 Fun, Interesting & Offbeat  Celebrations

 

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 December Monthly Events

National Car Donation Month *

AIDS Awareness Month

National Pear Month

Bingo’s Birthday Month

National Drunk & Drugged Driving (3D) Prevention Month

Human Rights Month

Human Rights Month

National Human Rights Month

National Tie Month

National Write A Business Plan Month

National Write A Friend Month

Root Vegetables and Exotic Fruits Month

Safe Toys and Gifts Month

Spiritual Literacy Month

Universal Human Rights Month

Worldwide Food Service Safety Month

 

 

December Multi-Day & Weekly Events 2018

Hanukkah Menorah

Hanukkah Menorah

Hanukkah begins evening of Dec 2 ends evening of Dec 10









Kwanzaa Symbols

Kwanzaa Symbols

Kwanzaa begin on Dec 26, 2018 ends on Tues, Jan 01, 2019





Operation Santa Paws Dec 01-24, 2018


Hand Washing Awareness week - 1st week Dec

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December 2018 Daily Events:

Dec 01 Sat      World Aids Awareness Day

Dec 01 Sat      Bifocals Liberation Day

Dec 01 Sat      National Eat a Red Apple Day

Pie Day

Pie Day

Dec 01 Sat      National Pie Day

Dec 01 Sat      Day With(out) Art Day

Dec 01 Sat      National Rosa Parks Day

 

Dec 02 Sun      National Fritters Day

Dec 02 Sun      National Mutt Day

Dec 02 Sun      Special Education Day

 

Dec 03 Mon     Advent begins, date varies

Dec 03 Mon     National Roof over Your Head Day

 

Dec 04 Tue      National Santa’s' List Day

Dec 04 Tue      Wear Brown Shoes Day

Dec 04 Tue      National Sock Day

Dec 04 Tue      National Dice Day

Dec 04 Tue      National Cookie Day

Dec 04 Tue      World Trick Shot Day

 

Dec 05 Wed     National Bathtub Party

Dec 05 Wed     World Blue Jeans Day – Rape awareness

Dec 05 Wed     International Ninja Day

Night they ended Prohibition

Night they ended Prohibition

Dec 05 Wed     Repeal & End Prohibition Day

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Why Are We Having So Little Sex?

Why Are We All Having So Little Sex?

By BELINDA LUSCOMBE -TIME Magazine writer - Health - October 26, 2018

 

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Ms. Luscombe article is coming to you by submission of one of my readers who also is a good friend, William Fennie, H. W., M., a mentor and counselor in his own right. His foresight into the relevance of this article and the nature of my Blogs made it a natural fit for the SOC website, Thank you William.


Matt, a 34-year-old data analyst from Texas, and his wife dated for seven years before getting married in 2013. When they didn’t live together, they had sex every time they saw each other. After they moved in, however, he says things changed. Their sex life became inconsistent. They’d have a really active week and then a month with nothing, or just one at-bat. It began to hurt their relationship…..he didn’t know how to talk about sex with his wife.. “I really didn’t want to be pushy on that issue,” he says. “She has the right to say no, always and forever.”

 

If Matt’s story sounds familiar to you, you are not alone. Americans are …not having sex in droves, according to the General Social Survey, a profile of American behavior that has been gathered by the National Opinion Research Council at the University of Chicago since 1972, the fraction of people getting it on, at least once a week fell from 45% in 2000 to 36% in 2016. One study of the GSS data showed that more than twice as many millennial’s were sexually ‘inactive’ in their early 20’s than the prior generation was. And the sharpest drop was the most recent, in the years 2014 to 2016.

 

How can this be? …This is the era when …social stigma around premarital sex is gone, hookups are not considered shameful, and the belief in limiting partners to one side of the gender line is no longer universal…. Contraception has reduced the risk of serious physical consequences… technology helps willing partners find each other, endless free online porn to rev the engines… and [Viagra type drugs] to overcome the most common physical limitations for men.

What hasn’t changed is that sex remains as exhilarating as it was for our ancestors. In fact, a safe, consensual romp with a loving and appropriate partner is one of life’s…delight with no downside…and pure, free fun.

 

Yet there is a slump. Nearly 20% of 18- to 29-year-old’s reported having no sex at all in 2016, an almost 50% rise over those who were celibate in 2000. “The downward trend is very real,” says Philip Cohen, a sociology professor at University of Maryland, College Park.

 

Jean Twenge, professor of psychology, San Diego State University wrote a much-cited paper for the Archives of Sexual Behavior about this downturn; [she] says one big reason is marriage—…. Married people… have more sex than single people of the same age… because they’re already going to bed with someone who …is  having sex with them. The supply side of the equation is solved, only the demand side is a riddle.

 

What has remained constant, while the number of 20-something spouses has dropped, And increasingly, young people are eschewing having a relationship with one partner, and instead hanging out with a loosely assorted group of friends…[results:] less convenience sex is going on.” says Twenge. “So there’s a larger proportion of people in their early 20s who are not having sex at all.”

 

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Married folks, are falling down on the job too. “The number one issue being, says couples therapist Ian Kerner, author of the book She Comes First. -is “discrepant libido and low libido and no libido.”

Twenge’s study shows that the highest drop in sexual frequency has been among married people with higher levels of education... This may be …child-centric family anxiety. “We know there’s more parenting anxiety,” says Cohen. “That could be turning into generalized family stress.”

Seems, only the 60-somethings are bucking the trend…Unlike the retirees who came before them, they’re putting the sex back in sexagenarian, with an average coital frequency that is slightly higher than in two decades earlier.

 Many couples have perfectly good reasons for not having sex: they’re exhausted, they’re unwell, they have too much else to do, or the kids are in the bed with them.

 

The trend for using beds for other activities beside sleeping and making whoopee is so robust …“We’re one of the few species that mate face to face,” says Sue Johnson, a Canadian psychotherapist and couples technique counselor: “And face to face interactions seem to be going down everywhere. We turn to technology instead of to people….”  The sex toy industry has been growing briskly and is worth about $15 billion annually. Astonishing numbers of hours of pornography are being consumed online. And VR porn is taking off… Some neuroscientists have argued that for some people, heavy porn consumption can recondition the brain’s arousal circuitry to respond more to the screen than a human.

 

Therapists have noticed the shifting dynamics in both male and female patients…” Another complicating factor is the changing conversation around consent and sexual advances, shaped by the ‘MeToo’ movement. Matt, along with other struggling sexual partners interviewed as background for this story, expresses uncertainty about where the boundaries lie. “There was always the question in my mind, am I being unreasonable?” Matt says… This adds a layer of complexity to a subject that couples are already notoriously bad at, talking about [Sex]. “I do think that conversations around consent, and what consent is, are becoming much more real,” says Lori Brotto, a Canadian  Professor at UBC in research of Women's Sexual Health. Brotto. ... “This can mean that [male]partners are initiating less [sex], that they’re sitting back and waiting for the female to initiate. And then feeling rejected when they don’t.”

 

One of the more alarming discoveries to emerge so far is the large number of women for whom sex is actually painful. “One in five young women 18 to 29 experience chronic pain during sex,” says Natalie Rosen, a psychologist and associate professor at Dalhousie University in Nova Scotia… Rosen found that a third of women never mentioned it to their partners because they were ashamed, felt inadequate or feared being dumped. “Or they end the relationship preemptively without telling their partner why,”

 

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Gender dynamics are having an impact too. One of the oldest and sturdiest reasons for abstinence: mates are not finding each other attractive. Review that looked at sexual frequency and chore distribution found... We are interested in that which we are lacking, thus household chores should be gender specific. …Other studies found that in homes where guys pitch in more women are less stressed, less resentful and therefore... their relationship is better. A study released in April from the University of Utah found: Men who share the grocery shopping report more sexual satisfaction than men who don’t, but if they do more cleaning and laundry than their spouses, sexual frequency goes down. For women, washing up was the libido killer.

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The lead researcher, Dan Carlson, at the University, an assistant professor of family and consumer studies, found: “Homes with more traditional gender roles have sex more often because the men get to make the call as to whether there will be any knocking of boots. And homes which are really egalitarian also have more sex because the couples are communicating better...People wanting a egalitarian marriage…are happier when they can achieve one,” Carlson says. It’s the murky middle, those couples that desire gender equality but haven’t quite perfected it, who are sleeping facing the wall.

 

 

More prosaic reasons for desire discrepancy, ….the unhappy situation in which one partner wants a lot more sex than the other- .,, from genetics to upbringing to hormonal changes to sexual history to general healthiness. Higher rates of obesity, for obese men are more likely to be impotent. “There are health implications,” says Maryland’s Cohen, “and there is the social self-image, feeling attractive...”

The Galatian Suicide photo shared by William Floyd

The Galatian Suicide photo shared by William Floyd

 

Then there’s the public health epidemic: depression. “Seen in every national probability study is that depression rises to the top as a leading cause of low desire, specifically,” says Brotto. Treating depression can further hurt desire; many common medications for depression, such as SSRIs, are known to lower libido.

 

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Might people have become less happy since the turn of the millennium? Twenge thinks so. Another of her papers found that general happiness among those over 30 had dropped markedly since 2000. There could be any number of reasons for the fall, but one intriguing suggestion is that the economic trends that have shaped the current political climate may also have affected our more intimate relations. A 2011 study from the University of Virginia that analyzed GSS data between 1972 and 2008 found that Americans reported being happier in the years when income inequality was at its least fierce. Not because they were richer, the study suggested, but because times seemed fairer. Many more American workers have had to embrace erratic work schedules because of the 24/7 work economy. That makes it hard for couples to spend time together.

 

 

Economic pressure might also explain why young people have experienced the steepest falloff in sexual activity. Millennials and the generation below them, sometimes known as Gen Z, have suffered more in the great recession. Young men, especially, are finding it harder to find jobs; more than a third of 18 to 34-year-old Americans are living with their parents, an arrangement usually mutually exclusive with having a stellar sex life.

 

“I think it’s important to consider that this might not be bad.”

 

All of this, Twenge believes, may be leading to a generation of young people who are not interested in partnering up, who are moving away from pair bonding into the sexual equivalent of a gig economy. Instead of having a job or steady relationship, people have to find their own opportunities. “The theme that comes up over and over [among young people] is the increase in individualism,” says Twenge. “More focus on the self and less on social rules.” That would explain both the openness around sexuality and the drop in actual sex.

Escape into Reality by Michal Trpak

Escape into Reality by Michal Trpak

 

 

Whatever the causes, say therapists, the solutions don’t change. Couples need to figure out their sexual needs and wants, communicate them and perhaps put down their phones for a while. That doesn’t always mean having more sex. Cohen notes that the drop in the rate of sex has not been accompanied by a rise in divorce. “I could imagine a positive scenario where people communicate more and better within relationships now and the low interest partner talks the high interest partner out of it and they’re happier,” he says. “I think it’s important to consider that this might not be bad.”

 

This was the key for Matt and his wife. “Sometimes there’s still a libido mismatch,” he says of his marriage now. “And not every week or month is perfect, but my wife and I have learned to communicate better, and we’ve both learned to listen better.” Things are going so well that they recently decided the time was right to try to start a family and in October they found out they were pregnant.

 

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Conversation, it seems, is the most powerful type of foreplay. “If you want me to give my advice to the American public about this, it would be, ‘Talk to each other about sex,’” says Klein. “Talk to each other about how you want to feel. Do you want to feel attractive? Do you want to feel desired? Do you want to feel young? Do you want to feel graceful?” And then you have to decide if you’re willing to put the work in, he adds. “Gourmet sex is like gourmet cooking,” he says. “They don’t happen without focus.”

A Challenge to Male Roles In U. S. Since 1937

Another Conversation on Masculinity, Society, and Change. by  Calvin Harris H.W., M.

 

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“Rationalization was much easier than recognizing the gravity of what was lost: an innocent, healthy childhood and an introduction to sexuality on my terms” - Concepción de León

This is a powerful quote from New York Times writer, Concepción de León.

I have spoken before about the necessity of sexuality, and  gender preference be defined by the individual, coming from their innate self, expressed outwardly decided by the  person in their own terms.   

I have mention before how this innate process has been derailed through  children’s storybooks, affecting  children’s gender and sexual behaviors from centuries past. So, today I would like us to look at a tenacious  twentieth century  American comic strip, that has speed seemed to act as an equalizer of bad behaviors (if for only one day), a chance for the young female adults of the last era to enact behaviors befitting their male counterparts. and  how this American folktale may have the underpinning for new sexual roles and yet again poor marks regarding Males and Masculinity in the twenty first century and beyond.

The Sadie Hawkins Day Race

The Sadie Hawkins Day Race

The Comic Strip was created by cartoonist Al Capp and called Li'l Abner. The Encyclopaedia Britannica reported that Li’l Abner, ran in American newspaper from 1934 until 1977, chronicling the absurdities of daily life in the fictional Appalachian town of Dogpatch.

The comic strip abounded in stereotypes of Appalachia. Its title character, Abner Yokum, was a handsome, muscle-bound hillbilly, as lazy as he was dull witted. Like Abner, most of the men of Dogpatch were cast as essentially useless to society; all the real work was done by the “wimmenfolk.” One such woman was the curvaceous and beautiful yet hard-working Daisy Mae Scragg, who was hopelessly in love with Abner and pursued him fruitlessly for years before they finally married in 1952; they produced a child, Honest Abe, in 1953. Another was Abner’s mother, Mammy [who to me looked like Popeye the Sailor], She was the unofficial mayor of Dogpatch, who smoked a corncob pipe and kept the Yokum household running while her lazy, illiterate husband, Pappy, did little more than lie about.

Capp used Li’l Abner to comment satirically on American life and politics, spoofing ruthless capitalists in the early years before turning his wit on hippies and antiwar activists as his views grew more conservative later in life. He retired his creation in 1977, two years before his death. Since then, Li’l Abner has been reprinted at various times.”

In its wake, this comic strip has had a profound influence on the way the world viewed the American South, Men’s  & Women’s roles. and a notable celebration in Dogpatch called, Sadie Hawkins Day, on which the women of the town were allowed to marry any bachelor they could chase down and capture; annual on that  day of role reversal. Females asked males to dances, have sex, or marry. The enormous popularity of the Sadie Hawkins Day  had Capp obligingly  making it a comic strip tradition every November, lasting four decades. The Sadie Hawkins Day phenomena went from being  a pseudo-holiday  November 15, 1937 to gaining in popularity in 1939, two years after its inauguration, the celebration warranted a two-page spread in Life Magazine, who reported that on “Sadie Hawkins Day, Girls Chase Boys in 201 Colleges." By the early 1940s the comic strip event had swept the nation's imagination and acquired a life of its own. By 1952, the event was reportedly celebrated in various venues around the world. It became a woman-empowering rite at high schools and college campuses, long before the modern feminist movement gained prominence.

 

The practical side of Sadie Hawkins day was simply one of gender role-reversal. Women and girls take the initiative, make decisions in preparation to go out with their  invite  man or boy of choice — almost unheard of before 1937.

 

Yet the Male paradigm, the persona of the male counterpoint in Dogpatch  depicts a protagonist, “who is handsome, muscle-bound and as lazy as he was dull witted. A character essentially useless to himself, to his family and to society.  

A character, that we can only hope will not take hold in the American male psyche, as the roles of men and women begin to balance each other out, no longer  men vs women but equal in opportunity.

 

Book Unspeakable by Daum

Book Unspeakable by Daum

Meghan Daum, author of “The Unspeakable: And Other Subjects of Discussion”,  an occasional, Los Angeles Times oped columnist. www.meghandaum.com

 

On a topic of women vs men causes and movements,  Meghan said [these movements] “will live or die by the degree to which it’s willing to let people in. Until it makes room for examinations not just of toxic masculinity but also toxic femininity—and, even better, dispatch with these meaningless terms—it will continue to tell only half the story. Until it admits that women can be as manipulative and creepy and generally awful as men, the movement will continue to send a message that we’re not really whole people.”

 

I’m wary of any language that defines people ‘only’ based on what was done to them, as opposed to an identity they chose.  I would not want people’s life story to be overshadowed by notions of popular culture.

Yet so many men have felt isolated and unresponsive by what was misread as to how they should act and be by their culture. Decisions in life and sexually counter to their nature, that they just freeze up, or succumb to that which can only be described as trauma.

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Dr. van der Kolk a psychiatrist specializing in post-traumatic stress disorder, working with  veterans to sexual assault survivors, wrote a book called: “The Body Keeps the Score”  which hinges on his idea that trauma is stored in the body and that, for therapy to be effective, it needs to take into account the physiological changes that occur. He says, “Many people also experience dissociation, which can manifest as literal desensitization in parts of the body or the inability to describe physical sensations.”

 

Men’s identities must change to be able to let go of painful isolation.  Let go of fragmented storylines,  images, sounds and emotion that must be processed as belonging to the past.

The Re-Imaging of Masculinity in the 21st Century and it’s role model for the coming youth, must be vigorously overhauled and fiercely optimistic of a person’s place in the world, for example:

Masculine youth needs to learn to be rigorously honest about what he knows and what he needs to know, and what he feels. To express constructive emotions that exposes the past and lets it go. He knows how to rage without hurting others. He knows how to fear and keep moving. He knows joy, and shares gratitude. He seeks self-mastery.

The 21st Century and beyond male youth has to learn to let go of childish shame. Feeling guilty when they have done nothing  wrong. He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children. He teaches others how to be kind.

He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain. He creates intimacy and trust with his actions. He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships. He stopped letting his libido run his life. He has learned self-respect comes from telling the truth. He has men who he trusts and turns to for support.

He confronts his limitations. He knows how to take conscious chances makes things happen. He knows how to learn from his mistakes and roll with it. When he falls, he gets back up. He practices compassion, for himself and others.  He is disciplined when he needs to be. He is flexible when he needs to be. He has high expectations for himself and those he connects with and finally He knows how to listen from the core of his being.

S. F. Pride 1986 Snake Man

S. F. Pride 1986 Snake Man

He knows he is an animal and part of nature. Yet he knows his spirit and the connection to something greater. As a whole person, he looks for ways to serve others. He knows he has a higher purpose. He loves with fierceness. He laughs with abandonment because he lives fully.

 

These are some descriptions of the Re-Imagined Masculinity, a reality that means a revolution/evolution of the holders of the future, that means a change in you, A call for a rethink of the stories you tell about yourself, a rethink of expectations of yourself and others, and a focus on tomorrow.

 

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