To Optimize Your Purpose

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To Optimize Your Purpose Is It Effective Or  Efficient?

Many times, when people seek me out it is because they are at some kind of a crossroads either in their career or life in generally. It is because of some decision they want to make about their Life purpose. This articles focuses on two key factors to making change.

At a recent cocktail party, the conversation got around to favorite Iconic Movie Stars. Audrey Hepburn was one of the names that came up. It’s strange how I latched on to what some of the “older” cocktail guests had to say about her story.

Young and fresh-faced Audrey rose to fame in the 1950s, in fact to become one of the most celebrated actresses of her time. In 1953, Audrey Hepburn became the first actress to win an Academy Award, a Golden Globe Award, and the British Academy of Film and Television Arts Awards for a single performance: in her leading role performance of Roman Holiday. a ‘romantic comedy’ leading role in the film.

Matter of fact, over half a century later, she remains one of only 15 people to earn an "EGOT" that is a person winning all four major entertainment awards: Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony. This group is small, yet as diverse as John Gielgud, Whoopi Goldberg, Mel Brooks, Rita Moreno, Andrew Lloyd Weber, and John Legend, to name a few, all different, yet iconic – but excuse me, I digress.

By the 1960s, Audrey Hepburn averaged one new film per year and was on a trajectory to being a Hollywood Legend.

But then in 1967, at the height of her popularity she stopped her career as an Actress. Now I want you to image someone in this position, only 30 years of age and has put the brakes on a life course.

We find her making a life path change and a switch in careers, we see Audrey spending the next 25 years working for UNICEF, you know that branch of the United Nations that provides food and healthcare to children in war-torn countries. Her performances now are as a volunteer worker throughout Africa, South America, and Asia.

I think you are now wondering what this story has to do with our title Optimizing Your Purpose Efficiency or Effectiveness? Let’s put away Audrey’s story for the moment. Let me build a kind of framework  from which to make this all clear.

Efficient vs. Effective

Let’ start with you. We can all agree with the concept that You get one, lifetime on this plane of existence. How do you decide the best way to spend your time? Professional Productivity Expert’s will advise that you focus on being effective rather than being efficient.

What is the difference? Efficiency is about getting more things done. Effectiveness is about getting the right things done. Peter Drucker, an educator, management consultant, and author, whose writings contributed to the philosophical and practical foundations of the modern business corporation once encapsulated the differences in this quote, "There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all."

That makes plain the idea that making progress is about being productive on the right things. But how do you decide “the right things"? One widely used approach is the Pareto Principle, which is more commonly known as the 80/20 Rule.

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The 80/20 Rule was introduced by 20th century economic sociologist, Wilfried Fritz Pareto, (who I paraphrase,) stated “that, in any particular domain, a small number of things account for the majority of the results. For example, 80 percent of the land in Italy is owned by 20 percent of the people.” Or, 20% of drivers cause 80% of all traffic accidents. The point is that the majority of the results are driven by a minority of causes.

The Upside of the 80/20 Rule

When applied to your life and career, the 80/20 Rule helps focus you to separate the vital few from the trivial of the many.

In your own life, this strategy can be useful to find your time-wasting actives or to look at the sources of  some of your problems. You may find that the majority of your complaints come from a handful of problem situations. The 80/20 Rule would suggest that you can clear out your logjams or backlogging circumstance by identifying and stopping the engagements within them.

The 80/20 Rule is like a form of Martial arts that teaches self-defense, improves confidence and self-esteem for your life and work. By finding precisely the right area to apply action, you can get more results with less effort.

Like many things it is a double edge sword, there is a downside to this approach, which many times  is overlooked. To illustrate let’s return to Audrey Hepburn.

The Downside of the 80/20 Rule

It is 1967. Audrey Hepburn at the prime of her career finds herself trying to decide how to purposefully spend her time.

Hepburn's first career, acting on stage and screen. Her next career, acts of service and thus in December 1992, she’s awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom for her efforts, this is the highest civilian award granted by the United States.

If  the use of the 80/20 Rule  had been part of her decision-making process, her life may have been very different. Let’s say she followed her trajectory to stardom, what would she do,  the clear answer is: do more romantic comedies. They gave her large audiences, earned her awards, and was an obvious path to greater fame and fortune.

Setting that aside, scenario two, we would take into account her desire to help children through UNICEF, the 80/20 Rule could have pointed out that doing more romantic comedies was still the best option because of her maximized earning power and she could have donated more of her earnings to UNICEF.

Here comes the rub, that would have been all well and good if she wanted to continue acting. But she didn't want to continue her career life as an actress. This reveals the perceptual bias that many of us have but one which contradicts the reality of  the life lived.  

You see her perception of herself was that of one in service  to others, and no reasonable analysis of the 80/20 Rule would have in 1967  suggested that volunteering for UNICEF was the most effective use of her time.

This is the downside of the 80/20 Rule, when applied to the start of a new path, it will never look like the most effective option in the beginning.

Optimizing for Your Past or Your Future

James Clear, Life Coach and the author of Atomic Habits, which advocates “small changes that will transform your habits.” gives us this insight: “Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, worked on Wall Street and climbed the corporate ladder to become senior vice-president of a hedge fund before leaving it all in 1994 to start the company.

If Bezos had applied the 80/20 Rule in 1993 in an attempt to discover the most effective areas to focus on in his career, it is virtually impossible to imagine that founding an internet company would have been on the list. At that point in time, there is no doubt that the most effective path—whether measured by financial gain, social status, or otherwise—would have been the one where he continued his career in finance.

The 80/20 Rule is calculated and determined by your recent effectiveness. Whatever seems like the "highest value" use of your time in any given moment will be dependent on your previous skills and current opportunities.

The 80/20 Rule will help you find the useful things in your past and get more of them in the future. But if you don’t want your future to be more of your past, then you need a different approach.

The downside of being effective is that you often optimize for your past rather than for your future.”

Where to Go From Here

James Clear talks a lot about changing habits, creating better habits, making better decisions, equaling  living a  better life.  I agree with him on these points. He speaks of giving enough practice and enough time, so the thing that previously seemed ineffective can become very effective, and you get good at what you practice. I have found that to be true in my own life.

When Audrey Hepburn changed course in 1967, from acting to volunteering, this may not have seemed nearly as effective a career choice. But three decades later, she received the Presidential Medal of Freedom—a remarkable feat, a satisfaction she is unlikely to have accomplished by acting in more romantic comedies.

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The process of learning a new skill or starting a new course or taking on a new adventure of any sort will often appear to be in the beginning, an ineffectual use of time compared to the other tools and abilities you already know when applying 80/20 Rule analysis The new project or endeavor will seem like a waste of time. But that doesn't mean it's the wrong decision only a change in the focus of perception, and the Conscious decision to optimize your Past or your Future.



FOOTNOTES

Did you enjoy that article? Here are two more things you might like:

  • Online course: My Cultural History Course that speak to unconscious and conscious societal programs that dictate our actions and decisions.

  • Prosperos Assembly 2020: That speak to you, your inner most being, community, about unconscious habits innovation, and motivation.

Urge for Adventure November 2019

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Hey Guys,

November is here, that mid-point between Autumn and Winter. Bringing you traditional, yet new and creative ways to engage with life, with old and new friends, as well as with family.

A chance to engage in activities both inside and outside the home this month. Keep watch, you will find something, you did not know before about yourself. It may come from taking in the sensation of colorful leaves, smells of cooking and spices. Maybe even in the feel of cooling temperatures. Some have let their beards and mustaches grow. Some stay warm by the fire and a good book. Others watching Thanksgiving specials of their favorite TV shows. Still others braving the elements to see the new movie releases. You can taste the anticipation of Thanksgiving meals, things to stuff your face with deliciousness. Still others prepare for the Black Friday Shopping.

One of the best ways to learn something new about yourself is to listen to yourself while you are in conversation with others, you may be surprised at what you hear.

The month of Thanksgiving is a time to consider your harvest, and to thankfully celebrate your community and family's collective bounty. Now if you add something different or additional to the mix check out the Calendar of events below.

November Monthly Events

·         Adopt A Turkey Month

·         Banana Pudding Lovers Month

·         Eye Donation Month

·         Greens and Plantains Month

·         Historic Bridge Awareness Month

·         International Picture Book Month

·         Lung Cancer Awareness Month

·         Military Family Appreciation Month

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·         Nat’l Adopt Senior Pet Month

·         National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month

·         National Aviation History Month

·         National Children Adoption Month

·         National COPD Month

·         National Diabetes Month

·         National Entrepreneurship Month

·         National Epilepsy Awareness Month

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Family Stories comes in flavors

·         National Family Caregivers Month

·         National Family Stories Month

·         National Family Literacy Month

·         National Fun with Fondue Month

·         National Good Nutrition Month

·         National Gratitude Month

·         National Healthy Skin Month

·         National Home Care Month

·         National Hospice Month

·         National Impotency Awareness Month

·         Nat’l Critical Infrastructure Security & Resilience Month

·         National Inspirational Role Models Month

·         National Life Writing Month

·         National Long–Term Care Awareness Month

·         National Marrow Awareness Month

·         National Medical Science (MSL) Awareness

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·         National Memoir Writing Month

·         National Model Railroad Month

·         Nat’l Native American Heritage Month

·         National Novel Writing Month

·         National Pancreatic Cancer Month

·         National Peanut Butter Lovers Month

·         National Pepper Month

·         National Pet Cancer Awareness Month

·         National  Pomegranate Month

·         National PPSI AIDS Awareness Month

·         National PTA Healthy Lifestyles Month

·         National Runaway Prevention Month

·         National Roasting Month

·         National Scholarship Month

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·         No-Shave November Cause

·         PTA Healthy Lifestyles Month

·         Spinach and Squash Month

·         Stomach Cancer Awareness Month

·         Sweet Potato Awareness Month

·         Real Jewelry Month

·         Triple Crown of Surfing

·         World Vegan Month

·         Worldwide Bereaved Sibling Month

·         World Prematurity Awareness Month

·         World Neuroendocrine Cancer Month

 

               

       

       

November Multi-Day & Weekly Events 2019

 

·         MADD's Tie One On For Safety Campaign Nov 01- Dec 31

 

·         National Fig Week                                   Nov 01- 07

 

·         Dear Santa Letter Week                          Nov 07- 14

 

 

·         Intimate Apparel Market Week               Nov 03 - 08

·         Nat’l Animal Shelter /Rescue Appreciate  Nov 03 - 09

·         International Libraries Games Day          Nov 03 - 09

·         National Radiologic Technology Week      Nov 03 - 09

 

·         Hunger & Homelessness Aware Wk.        Nov 09 -18

·         Geography Awareness Week                    Nov 10 - 16

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Nurse Practitioners

·         National Nurse Practitioner Wk.             Nov 10 - 16

·         National Split Pea Soup Week                 Nov 10 - 16

·         Perioperative Nurse Week                       Nov 10 - 16

 

·         Nat’l Transplant Donor Sabbath              Nov 15 -17

 

·         American Education Days                        Nov 18 - 22

·         Global Entrepreneurship Week                Nov 18 - 24

·         National Book Award Week                     Nov 18 - 24

·         National Farm-City Week                        Nov 18 - 24

·         National Young Reader’s Week                 Nov 18 - 24

·         World Antibiotic Awareness Week           Nov 18 - 24

 

 

 

 

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·         Better Conversation Week                       Nov 24 - 30 

·         Church/State Separation Wk.                  Nov 24 - 30 

·         National Game & Puzzle Wk.                   Nov 24 - 30 

·         National Family Week                             Nov 24 - 30 

·         GERD Reflux  Awareness Wk.                 Nov 24 - 30 

 

·         National Deal Week                                 Nov 27- Dec 03

 

 

November Daly Events 2019

 

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Calvin at Writers Festival

Nov 01        Fri    All Saints’ Day 

Nov 01        Fri    National Author's Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Brush Day

Nov 01        Fri    ​National Calzone Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Cook for Your Pets Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Family Literacy Day

Nov 01        Fri    Nat’l Men Make Dinner Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Vinegar Day

Nov 01        Fri    World Vegan Day

 

Nov 02        Sat    All Souls’ Day

Nov 02        Sat    Day of the Dead

Nov 02        Sat    Int’l Fountain Pen Day

Nov 02        Sat    Int’l Plan Your Epitaph Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Bison Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Deviled Egg Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Football Jersey day

Nov 02        Sat    Nat’l Medical Science Liaison (MSL) Appreciation Day

 

 

 

 

 

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Nov 03        Sun   Cliché Day

Nov 03        Sun   Fall Back For Daylight Day

Nov 03        Sun   Give Up Your Should’s Day

Nov 03        Sun   National Homemaker Day

Nov 03        Sun   National Sandwich Day

Nov 03        Sun   Pumpkin Destruction Day   

Nov 03        Sun   Public Television Day

Nov 03        Sun   SOS Day

Nov 03        Sun   World Kindness Day

 Nov 03       Sun   Zero Tasking Day

 

Nov 04        Mon  National Candy Day

Nov 04        Mon  Check Your Blood Pressure Day

Nov 04        Mon  Job Action Day

Nov 04        Mon  Traffic Professionals Day

Nov 04        Mon  Use Your Common-Sense Day

 

Nov 05        Tue   American Football Day

Nov 05        Tue   Bonfire Night

Nov 05        Tue   National Doughnut Day

Nov 05        Tue   National Hot Sauce Day

Nov 05        Tue   National Love Your Red Hair Day

 

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Nov 06        Wed  General Election Day

Nov 06        Wed  International Stress Awareness Day

Nov 06        Wed  National Nachos Day

Nov 06        Wed  Saxophone Day

Nov 06        Wed  U N Day for Preventing  Exploitation of the  Environment

 

Nov 07        Thu   National Stress Awareness Day

Nov 07        Thu   International Merlot Wine Day

Nov 07        Thu   International Stout Day

Nov 07        Thu   National Bittersweet Chocolate with Almonds Day

 

Nov 08        Fri    National Cappuccino Day

Nov 08        Fri    Cook Something Bold and Pungent Day

Nov 08        Fri    National Parents as Teacher Day

Nov 08        Fri    X-Ray Day

Nov 08        Fri    Nat’l Science, Tech, Engineering, Art & Math Day

 

Nov 09        Sat    Carl Sagan Day

Nov 09        Sat    Go to an Art Museum Day

Nov 09        Sat    National Scrabble Day

Nov 09        Sat    World Freedom Day

                  

Nov 10        Sun   Area Code Day

Nov 10        Sun   International Accounting Day

Nov 10        Sun   National Forget-Me-Not Day

Nov 10        Sun   U S Marine Corps Birthday

Nov 10        Sun   U N World Science Day for Peace

 

 

National Singles Day

National Singles Day

 

Nov 11        Mon  Domino Day

Nov 11        Mon  National Metal Day

Nov 11        Mon  Origami Day

Nov 11        Mon  Singles Day

Nov 11        Mon  Veterans Day

Nov 11        Mon  World Orphans Day

 

Nov 12        Tue   National Chicken Soup for the Soul Day

Nov 12        Tue   National French Dip Day

Nov 12        Tue   National Happy Hour Day

Nov 12        Tue   National Pizza with All Except Anchovies

Nov 12        Tue   World Pneumonia Day

 

Nov 13        Wed  Geographic Information System Day

Nov 13        Wed  National Indian Pudding Day

Nov 13        Wed  Sadie Hawkins Day

Nov 13        Wed  World Kindness Day

 

Nov 14        Thu   Great American Smoke out

Nov 14        Thu   International Girls Day

Nov 14        Thu   Loosen Up, Lighten Up Day

Nov 14        Thu   National Philanthropy Day

Nov 14        Thu   National Pickle Day    

Nov 14        Thu   National Spicy Guacamole Day

Nov 14        Thu   Operating Room Nurses Day

Nov 14        Thu   World Diabetes Day

 

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Clean Out Your Refrigerator

Nov 15        Fri    America Recycles Day

Nov 15        Fri    National Bundt (Pan) Day

Nov 15        Fri    Nat’l Clean Out Your Refrigerator Day

Nov 15        Fri    National Drummer Day

 

Nov 16        Sat    International Day For Tolerance

Nov 16        Sat    National Button Day

Nov 16        Sat    National Fast Food Day

 

Nov 17        Sun   National Baklava Day

Nov 17        Sun   Homemade Bread Day

Nov 17        Sun   National Hiking Day

Nov 17        Sun   National Unfriend Day

Nov 17        Sun   World Day to Remember Road Traffic Victims

Nov 17        Sun   World Prematurity Day

 

Nov 18        Mon  Mickey Mouse Birthday

Nov 18        Mon  National Princess Day

Nov 18        Mon  National Vichyssoise Day

 

Nov 19        Tue   National Blow Bagpipes Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Camp Day

Nov 19        Tue   Nat’l Carbonated Beverage With Caffeine Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Have a Bad Day

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The International Male

Nov 19        Tue   International Men’s Day

Nov 19        Tue   Women's Entrepreneurship Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Play Monopoly Day

Nov 19        Tue   World Toilet Day

 

Nov 20        Wed  National Absurdity Day

Nov 20        Wed  Future Teachers of America Day

Nov 20        Wed  Global Hug a Runner Day aka G.O.H.A.R.D

Nov 20        Wed  Name your PC Day

Nov 20        Wed  National Book Award Winner Announced

Nov 20        Wed  Nat’l Education Support Professionals Day

Nov 20        Wed National Entrepreneur's Day

Nov 20        Wed  Universal Children’s Day

 

 

 

Nov 21        Thu   Jukebox Day

Nov 21        Thu   National Rural Health Day

Nov 21        Thu   World Hello Day

Nov 21        Thu   World Television Day

 

 

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Drive on the Open Hwy

Nov 22        Fri    Go For A Ride Day

Nov 22        Fri    National Cranberry Relish Day

 

Nov 23        Sat    International Survivors of Suicide Day

Nov 23        Sat    Int’l Image Consultants Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Adoption Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Cashew Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Espresso Day

Nov 23        Sat    Dr. Who Day

 

Nov 24        Sun   Celebrate Your Unique Talent Day

Nov 24        Sun   National Sardines Day

 

 

Nov 25        Mon  Int’l Elimination  Day of Violence against Women

Nov 25        Mon  National Blasé Day

Nov 25        Mon  International Hat Day

Nov 25        Mon  National Parfait Day

 

Nov 26        Tue   National Cake Day

Nov 26        Tue   U N Int’l Day of Solidarity with Palestinian People

 

 

Nov 27        Tue   Nat’l Bavarian Cream Pie Day

Nov 27        Wed  National Tie One on Day     

 

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Nov 28        Thu   Thanksgiving Day

Nov 28        Thu   Nat’l Family Health History Day

Nov 28        Thu   National French Toast Day

Nov 28        Thu   Red Planet Day

 

Nov 29        Fri    Black Friday

Nov 29        Fri    Buy Nothing Day

Nov 29        Fri    Electronic Greetings Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Day of Listening

Nov 29        Fri    National Flossing Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Lemon Cream Pie Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Square-Dancing Day

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Nov 29        Fri    Native American Heritage Day

Nov 29        Fri    Rockefeller Center Tree Lighting

Nov 29        Fri    You’re Welcome Day

 

 

 

Nov 30        Sat    National Computer Security Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Mason Jar Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Mousse Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Meth Awareness Day

Nov 30        Sat    Small Business Saturday

Nov 30        Fri    World Stay Home Because You’re Well Day    

Tools for the Self Directed Life

Signs You Are Consciously Living

by Calvin Harris H. W., M.

 

Every moment of every day, we can strive to be vibrant, our best, and most loving to ourselves and others

 

Yes, we at Site of Contact want you to care about your success (whatever success may mean to you), we encourage your learning, your progress, your training (at whatever level is best for you) and we want you to realize the potential within you. BUT your success focus should not be to the extent that it sacrifices your sense of well-being, balance and happiness because compulsions are driving you.

 

 A sign of balance disruption is energy displacement. Stated differently, how the connection between muscular tension in the body causes bodily malfunction or non-functions. This can range from a simply feeling of out of sorts, to bad behavior, all the way to chronic illness. This somatic malfunction of the nervous systems is caused in part due to where conscious attention or lack of it is focused.

 

The nervous system is approximately 85% a visceral, non-thinking, non-conscious intelligence of our bodies. It regulates breathing for us or does digestion, or waste removal, (to name a few of its function). Yet to be complete, that is somatically whole in its effectiveness, we need to be consciously grounded. In computer terms, I am suggesting that our 3-dimensional Beingness runs as a hybrid data system of Body and Mind. The beauty of it is when the simplicity of physical functions running at its best are properly integrated with components of Conscious awareness.

 

Your internal and external data sources are more aligned as a hybrid operating system than you suspect. It enables seamless access, sharing and analysis of all types of perceived data, followed by combinations of action deployment based on memory tapes running and updating all the time. Its reliability is based on upgrades to its storage units. This hybrid combination allows for the storage unit to gain insights like understanding your reactions in social situations that may be random or different than what was experienced in the past and allows for alternative outcomes such as empathy followed by supportive social engagement rather than anger and rage.

  

This Hybrid integration of Somatic data management simply stated is your capability to engage with your world in a range of new situations that goes beyond your historic way of doing things, that yield to you new insights and vitality in life - you could call it a joy of living.

 

With that in mind, siteofcontact.net. suggest this simple philosophy: To create understanding in all of your relationships, start first with yourself.

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A key tool to begin this process, is to keep a journal: It could be electronic or handwritten, that's your choice. What it should entail is data, call it your reflection upon issues, emotions, situations that will show you signs of where you concentrate your energy and that could signal for you areas where displacement energy is being put.

 

Additionally, journaling can help you discover the fun or humor in the strangest of circumstances, even in the mundane tasks you come across daily. So, if you are going to be driven, decide to be driven by your potential for awareness in control of habits and active choices that you choose to internalize

 

Your Journal can be a resource and a benefit when:

  • You take time to reflect and review your activities, in such a way to allow your brain the chance to assemble and create order amidst what appears as chaos.

 

  •   You can gain insights parlayed into new habits, learned from observations and your experiences.

 

  • You can be less reactive, and more proactive in response that is more positive and self-confident though your discoveries and insights.

 

You could call this process of writing a type of “wet computer (brain) download”.

 

A suggestion, if this is a first-time journaling experience for you, then pick a time to do it when there are few if any distractions, and it is not a hectic nor stressful time of day. Some like to do it in the evening, when their reflections and insights seem to cleanse and empty their heads before bed. Others make time for reflection in the morning, as a way of cleaning their slate in preparation for a clearer sense of direction in their day.

 

As a bonus one builds a stronger relationship with oneself, without outside judgment or opinions to screen or hide one from their essential core. Some claim that improvements increase when one can find and practice gratitude for what they have discovered as a positive element or configuration in their life.

 

What I find helpful for beginners is for them not to try and use it as a grocery list of events that happened that day. But do journal on a regular basis. Look for what you consider to be relevant: situations that stand out, or are decisive, or momentous, or where you caught yourself in repetitious non-beneficial behaviors or thoughts; or where you are critical or pressing; notations of events having far-reaching effects, or that things have become urgent

 

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You may find it helpful not to use journal pages that have preprinted calendar date pages: This eliminates you from pressures to have to write daily. Instead, you have the freedom and leisure to write when you choose. Like everything else it takes practice to create good habits. Journaling will take finding and instituting a new routine or habit for yourself that incorporates consistent times and place for journaling that gives you a sense of accomplishment and success.

 

The important thing is to have fun journaling and with what you discover about Living Consciously. Benefits may show up as:




More observing Less judging

More responding Less reaction

More clarity Less self -sabotage

More engaged Less restriction

More self-Love Less fear

More boundaries Less other’s chaos

More trust Less resentment

More inner peace Less dung




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What changes is consciously not having the compulsions and reactions to people and things. Journaling becomes a means of reflection, rest, and recovery. When the progress made with journaling becomes knowing your essential self, that then enables supportive constructive social engagement with others.

 

Having an ongoing relationship with yourself creates an alignment with life. Remember life is about balance, being content, but never to stop growing, and learning. It's about fulfilling the need to add fun and discovery into each day along the way.

More advance techniques and practices are available through the Prosperos School of Ontology, email me Calvin at ialchemy1@gmail.com, for more details or if you have questions.

I close with a favorite quote from a character in the book ‘Auntie Mame’ by Patrick Dennis who says, "Live, Live, Live! Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!" 

Aloha

Calvin











Urge for Adventure October 2019

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Hey Guys,
With the month of October, autumn moves into gear. You may find yourself donning a sweater to enjoy the season’s bounty. October is not a month to be out done by any other. October is off the charts with festivals and socials offerings. Bringing you new and creative ways to engage with old and new friends.

Engaging in activities this month might help you look deeper within yourself, finding something about you, you did not know before. It is all the more reason for you to relish this month.




OCTOBER 2019 MONTH-LONG EVENTS:

ADHD Awareness Month

Adopt a Shelter Dog Month

American Pharmacist Month

Awareness Month

Awareness Month

Bullying Prevention Month

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Clergy Appreciation Month

Computer Learning Month

Cookie Month

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Eat Country Ham Month

Global Diversity Awareness Month

International Dinosaur Month

International Drum Month

Learning Disabilities Awareness Month

National Book Month

National Diabetes Month

National Ergonomics Month

National Fair-Trade Month   

National Pizza Month

National Seafood Month

National Vegetarian Month

National Popcorn Popping Month

OCTOBER WEEK OR MULTI DAY EVENTS: 


Week 1 Customer Service Week

Week 1. Get Organized Week

Week 1. Great Books and Mystery Series Week

Week 1. Financial Planning Week

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World Space Week - October 4 – 10

Week 2. Earth Science Week

Week 2 Fire Prevention Week

Week 2. National Metric Week

Week 2. Pet Peeve Week

Week 2. Teen Read Week

Yom Kippur Days -  Oct. 08 - 09

Earth Sciences Week – Oct. 13 – 19

Sukkot Week Oct.13 - 20

46th Annual Old Farmer's Day Oct 26 & 27

Chemistry Week -  October 20 – 26

Week 3 Pastoral Care Week

OCTOBER 2019 SPECIAL FUN DAY EVENTS:



Oct 1       Tue         Balloons Around the World Day

Oct 1       Tue         International Coffee Day

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Oct 1       Tue         International Music Day

Oct 1       Tue         International Older Persons Day

Oct 1       Tue         National Book Day

Oct 1       Tue         National Homemade Cookies Day

Oct 1       Tue         World Vegetarian Cooking  Day

 

 Oct 2       Wed        National Custodial Worker Day

Oct 2       Wed        National Kale Day

Oct 2       Wed        National Pumpkin Seed Day

Oct 2       Wed        Name Your Car Day








Oct 3       Thu         National Boyfriends Day

Oct 3       Thu         National Techies Day

Oct 3       Thu         Virus Appreciation Day

 

Oct 4       Fri           Ten-Four Day

Oct 4       Fri           Body Language Day

Oct 4       Fri           Improve Your Office Day

Oct 4       Fri           Manufacturing Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Cinnamon Roll Day

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Oct 4       Fri           National Diversity Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Golf Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Vodka Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Taco Day

Oct 4       Fri           World Animal Day

Oct 4       Fri           World Smile Day






Oct 5       Sat          Astronomy Day Fall

Oct 5       Sat          Do Something Nice Day

Oct 5       Sat          Int’l Frugal Fun Day

Oct 5       Sat          World Card Making Day

Oct 5       Sat          World Teacher's Day

 

Oct 6       Sun         Change a Light Day

Oct 6       Sun         German-American Day

Oct 6       Sun         Mad Hatter Day

Oct 6       Sun         National Noodle Day

Oct 6       Sun         Physician Assistant Day






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Oct 7       Mon         Bathtub Day

Oct 7       Mon        Chocolate-Covered Pretzel Day

Oct 7       Mon        National Frappe Day

Oct 7       Mon        National Inner Beauty Day

Oct 7       Mon        National LED Light Day

Oct 7       Mon        World Bullying Prevention Day

Oct 7       Mon        World Day of Architecture

Oct 7       Mon        World Habitat Day

Oct 7       Mon        You Matter To Me Day

 

Oct 8       Tue         American Touch Tag Day

Oct 8       Tue         Pierogi Day

 

Oct 9       Wed        Curious Events Day

Oct 9       Wed        Emergency Nurses Day

Oct 9       Wed        Fire Prevention Day

Oct 9       Wed        International Beer & Pizza Day

Oct 9       Wed        Leif Erikson Day

Oct 9       Wed        Moldy Cheese Day

Oct 9       Wed        World Mail  Post Day

 

 Oct 10     Thu         Int’l Day of  Natural Disaster Reduction

Oct 10     Thu         Int’l Newspaper Carrier Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Angel Food Cake Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Handbag Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Metric Day

Oct 10     Thu         World Mental Health  Aware Day

Oct 10     Thu         World Homeless Awareness Day





Oct 11     Fri           National Coming Out Day

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Oct 11     Fri           National It's My Party Day

Oct 11     Fri           Southern Food Heritage Day

Oct 11     Fri           World Egg Day

 


Oct 12     Sat          Int’l Moment of Frustration Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Chess Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Gumbo Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Free Thought Day

Oct 12     Sat          Nat’l Motorcycle Ride Day

Oct 12     Sat          Universal Music Day

 

Oct 13     Sun         Silly Sayings Day

Oct 13     Sun         International Skeptics Day




Oct 14     Mon        National  Be Bald & Free Day

Oct 14     Mon        National Pickle Day

Oct 14     Mon        Columbus or Indigenous Peoples Day

Oct 14     Mon        National Dessert Day

Oct 14     Mon        World Standards Day

 

Oct  15    Tue         Int’l  Day of Rural Women

Oct  15    Tue         Love Lucy Day

Oct  15    Tue         National Face Your Fears Day

Oct  15    Tue         Nat’l Pharmacy Technician Day

Oct  15    Tue         National White Cane Safety Day

 

Oct 16     Wed        National Bosses Day

Oct 16     Wed        National Dictionary Day

Oct 16     Wed        Nat’l Feral Cat Aware Day

Oct 16     Wed         National Fossil Day

Oct 16     Wed         Nat’l  Local Chamber of Commerce Day

Oct 16     Wed        Nat’l Take Your Parents to Lunch



Oct 17     Thu         Conflict Resolution Day

Oct 17     Thu         Get to Know Your Customers

Oct 17     Thu         Int’l Credit Union Day

Oct 17     Thu         Int’l Day for Eradication of Poverty

Oct 17     Thu         National Black Poetry Day

Oct 17     Thu         National Pasta Day

Oct 17     Thu         National Spirit Day

Oct 17     Thu         Wear Something Gaudy Day

 

Oct 18     Fri           National Chocolate Cupcake Day

Oct  18    Fri           National No Beard Day

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Cartoonist John Muir

Oct  18    Fri           Newspaper Comic Strip Day

 

Oct 19     Sat          Evaluate Your Life Day

Oct 19     Sat          Sweets for My Sweetie’s  Day

 

Oct 20     Sun         Brandied Fruit Day

Oct 20     Sun         Information Overload Day 

Oct 20     Sun         International Sloth Day

 

Oct 21     Mon        Babbling Day

Oct 21     Mon        Count Your Buttons Day

Oct 21     Mon        Nat’l Clean You Virtual Desktop Day

Oct 21     Mon        National Pumpkin Cheesecake Day

 

Oct 22     Tue         Caps Lock Day

Oct 22     Tue         National Nut Day

 

Oct 23     Wed        Medical Assistants Day

Oct 23     Wed        National Mole Day

Oct 23     Wed        Nat’l  TV Talk Show Host Day

 

Oct 24     Thu         National Bologna Day

Oct 24     Thu         United Nations Day

Oct 24     Thu         World Development Information Day

 

Oct 25     Fri           Cranky Co-workers Day

Oct 25     Fri           International Artists Day

Oct 25     Fri           Frankenstein Friday

Oct 25     Fri           International Bandana Day

Oct 25     Fri           Sourest Day

Oct 25     Fri           World Pasta Day         

 

Oct 26     Sat          Howl at the Moon

Oct 26     Sat          Make a Difference Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Mincemeat Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Pit Bull Awareness Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Pumpkin Day

 

Oct 27     Sun         National American Beer Day

Oct 27     Sun         National Black Cat Day

Oct 27     Sun         National Mother-In-Law Day

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U. S Naval Photo

Oct 27     Sun         Tell A Story Day - Scotland and U.K.

Oct 27     Sun         United States Navy Day

Oct 27     Sun         World Audio-Visual Heritage Day

 

 

Oct 28     Mon         International Animation Day

Oct 28     Mon        National Chocolate Day

 

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Oct 29     Tue         National Cat Day

Oct 29     Tue         National Hermit Day

Oct 29     Tue         National Internet Day

 

   Oct 30     Wed        Haunted Refrigerator Night

Oct 30     Wed        Mischief Night

Oct 30     Wed        National Candy Corn Day

Oct 30     Wed        National Checklist Day

Oct 30     Wed        World Audio Drama Day

 

Photo Artist Jason Beamguard and his Models

Photo Artist Jason Beamguard and his Models


 Oct 31     Thu         All Hallows' Eve or Halloween

Oct 31     Thu         Carve a Pumpkin Day

Oct 31     Thu         Girl Scout Founder’s Day

Oct 31     Thu         Increase Your Psychic Powers Day

Oct 31     Thu         National Magic Day




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Self Care Making Time For You

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Making an ally and friend of yourself unlocks a state of well-being.

 

If you have an ally, that is someone on your side. Ally comes from the Latin word alligare, meaning "to bind to," — an act of coming together, a protection of one.

 

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Yet, as a Life Coach, I find there are those who rather than being an ally to themselves,  are instead their own worst enemy. Most of the time they are unconscious of doing it to themselves until they have come undone. Often it is unconscious, the shadow side of themselves and acting without knowledge of what one really wants to accomplish. I am reminded of the quote: “The most reliable friend you have is your shadow.” – Matshona Dhliwayo

 

It comes later, as a revelation to them, to discover that self-awareness must be a key component for well-being and therefore success. To have success is to have communication with yourself. In other words, you are always in a relationship with yourself, the question is what kind is it?  Not to sound weird, but this relationship with yourself should be arguably one of the most important relationships that you have.

 

This Self-relationship is a foundation for everything else. Having said that, this self-relationship is not to be confused with negative compulsions of narcissism, nor on the other hand with overwhelming blame and shame about ourselves, rather it should identify traits that focus our being in a good place, to organize our self so that things happen in effective ways that allow for good interpersonal skills, and as a byproduct, produces success according to the individual’s own definition of success.

 

In other words, for you to focus on yourself in such a way to produce crucial development for a healthy sense of self. It is about gaining knowledge and having an understanding of how you operate and liking what you see in that process.

This establishes a baseline for you from which to work that can extend beyond yourself to others in ways that are altruistic and advantageous to all.

 

 This is going to take being a good friend to yourself first, by  developing and sustaining your relationship with the self.

 

One way to start, is by checking out how you speak to yourself. Remember everything you say you hear as well. No matter if talking to a room full of people or by yourself. This would include not only the words you say out loud but also the words you think. Words have an emotional imprint. Check yourself to see if you tend to speak harshly to yourself (either in your spoken voice or in your thinking voice).

 

If you catch yourself negatively impacting yourself with your self-talk, find a way to stop and observe. Try and see the emotional atmosphere you find yourself in — is there anger or agitation, is your heart rate up, are the words criticizing? Take a breath, slow it down and consciously reappraise the situation, in an effort to be gentler with yourself before continuing with any more outward action.

 

reappraise the situation,  in an effort to be gentler with yourself before continuing with any more outward action.  

 

Some life coaching clients find it helpful to practice conversations out loud with themselves— under the right conditions, doing so can be very useful. By consciously  using  the thoughts you’ve assembled  you have the capacity to unearth feelings buried within the words  to make possible clear differences in your discourse of what is advantageous and that which does not promote or contribute to personal or social well-being.

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That said, know that it takes time to develop a new habit. It will require your desire and your motivation to build this skill.

 

Journaling is another good practice to capture, record reactions, and keep track of your progress with self-talk. It is a place to start getting to know more about you. Journaling as a habit becomes an invaluable way to acquaint oneself with and to change personal experiences for the better.

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Journaling seems easier to accomplish if you will begin by setting small manageable goals, such as writing for just 15 minutes a day. Once in the routine, beginners will gain a new slant or perspective on their behaviors, while for seasoned chroniclers these insights provide motivation to continue.

You are in essence creating a new habit, one that by sticking to it keeps you conscious of and befriending yourself.

 

 In the beginning, as I mention, it may require some effort. Fortunately, if you keep at it and can eventually practice it daily, the process will become easier for you and eventually become an automatic part of your daily routine

Calvin’s Learning Circle’s

Calvin’s Learning Circle’s

 More on Journaling in upcoming articles. For my readers asking for deeper work, may I suggest a small group or one on one session that can be arranged with me? In addition, The Prosperos School of Ontology offers two seminars that are extremely useful: Translation and Releasing the Hidden Splendor. The classes offer tools for reaching change, a change in consciousness, not a change in “things.” You can contact me at my email address for more information about these classes, small group activities, or one on one mentoring services by going to the Contact Page.

 

Let me conclude with these words:

 “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

Thanks for reading

Calvin

Urge for Adventure September 2019

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HEY GUYS,

 Its September, September is the ninth month of the year. Yep, eight months of this year has passed. Here in the Northern Hemisphere, it signals the beginning of autumn, and I am sure for a number of you it means focus on refocusing your energies on projects or situations that you want to resolve or complete this year.  Words come to mind like New Month…New Mindset… New focus… New start… New Intention. New results.

September offers some choices of events for you to engage in for fun, or learning / self-improvement, or even for a bit of outrageousness. Look in our daily calendar of events that will follow. If for nothing else, it will give you some great conversation starting material beyond politics.

After Perusing the September calendar pages below. Check out Current or Pass Blogs pages by navigating the tabs at the top of each page. Find Items to reset your perspective or just enjoy the pictures.

From time to time this July, stop and ponder the words of Peter Marshall when he said: “May we think of Freedom, not as the right to do as we please, but as the opportunity to do what is right.”

 

 

Month Long Events:

Animal Pain Awareness Month

Better Breakfast Month

Children's Health and Safety Awareness Month

Chicken Month

Cholesterol Awareness Month

Classical Music Month

Healthy Aging Month

Hispanic Heritage Month

Honey Month

Intergeneration Month    

International Square-Dancing Month

Little League Month

Leukemia and Lymphoma Awareness Month

Men & Fall Hat Month              

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National Campus Safety Month

National Courtesy Month

National Food Safety Month

National Learning & Development Month

National Piano Month

National Preparedness Month                   

National Papaya Month                     

National Peripheral Artery Disease Awareness

National Sewing Month

National Suicide Prevention Month Health               

National Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome Awareness Month     

Self-Improvement Month                            

Sexual Health Month

Sickle Cell Awareness Month                    

World Alzheimer's Month

 

Weekly  or Multi Day Events:

National Waffle Week – September 1 - 8, 2019

National Assisted Living Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

National , Environmental Services Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

National Healthcare Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

Nephrology Nurses Week September 8 - 15, 2019   

National Housekeeper Appreciation Week- September 8 - 15, 2019

International European Heritage Days – September 10 - 21, 2019

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National Indoor Plant Week -  September 15 -21, 2019

National Eczema Week-  September 15 -22, 2019                        

National Surgical Technologists Week-  September 15 -21, 2019

National Hispanic Heritage Month Sept 15 ends Oct 15, 2019

National   Balance Awareness Week-  September 16 -23, 2019

National Rehabilitation Awareness Week-  September 16 -23, 2019

Oktoberfest, German festive September 21–28, 2019

Active Aging Week  Health September 22–29, 2019

Child Passenger Safety Awareness Week September 23-30, 2019    

Deaf Dog Awareness Week September 24–30, 2019

 

 

SEPTEMBER 2019 Daily Special and Wacky Days:

 

Sep 01     Sun         American Chess Day

Sep 01     Sun         Emma M. Nutt Day

Sep 01     Sun         National Cherry Popover Day

Sep 01     Sun          Onam  Indian  Religious Holidays

 

Sep 02       Mon          Ganesh Chaturthi Hindu, Religious Holidays

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Sep 02       Mon           Labor Day First Monday of month

Sep 02       Mon           VJ Day, WWII

Sep 02       Mon           World Coconut Food & Beverage Day

 

Sep 03       Tue            National Skyscraper Day

Sep 03       Tue            Telephone Tuesday Shopping Day 

 

Sep 04     Wed            National Wildlife Day

Sep 04     Wed            Newspaper Carrier Day

 

Sep 05       Thu            Be Late for Something Day

Sep 05       Thu            International Day of Charity

Sep 05       Thu            Cheese Pizza Day

 

Sep 06       Fri             National 401(k) Day

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Sep 06       Fri             National Read a Book Day

F Sep 06    Fri             Fight Procrastination Day

 

Sep 07       Sat              Brazil Independence Day

Sep 07       Sat             National Beer Lover's Day

Sep 07       Sat             National Salami Day

Sep 07       Sat             Neither Rain nor Snow Day

 

Sep 08       Sun           Grandparent's Day

Sep 08       Sun           International Literacy Day

Sep 08       Sun           National Date Nut Bread Day

Sep 08       Sun           National Pet Memorial Day

 Sep 08      Sun          Pardon Day

 

Sep 09       Mon          Ashurah   Islamic/ Jewish Holiday

Sep 09       Mon          Teddy Bear Day

Sep 09       Mon          International Sudoku Day                 

Sep 09       Mon          National Wiener Schnitzel Day

 

Sep 10       Tue            World Suicide Prevention Day

Sep 10       Tue            Swap Ideas Day

 

Sep 11       Wed          National 911 Day  Service & Remembrance

Sep 11       Wed          National Make Your Bed Day

Sep 11       Wed          No News is Good News Day

 

Sep 12       Thu            Chocolate Milk Shake Day

Sep 12       Thu            National Video Games Day

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Sep   13     Fri              Defy Superstition Day

Sep   13     Fri              Fortune Cookie Day

Sep   13     Fri              Blame Someone Else Day - 1st  Fri, 13th of Yr.

Sep   13     Fri              Chinese Mid-Autumn Moon Festival

Sep   13     Fri              Friday the 13th

Sep   13     Fri              National Peanut Day

Sep   13     Fri              Pitru Paksha Hindu, Religious Holidays

 Sep  13     Fri              Positive Thinking Day

Sep   13     Fri              Uncle Sam Day

         

Sep   14     Sat             International Crab Fest Day

Sep   14     Sat             International German Language Day               

Sep   14     Sat             International Stuttering Awareness Day

Sep   14     Sat             National Cream-Filled Donut Day

Sep   14     Sat             National Coloring Day

 

Sep   15     Sun            Batman Day

Sep   15     Sun            International Day of Democracy

Sep   15     Sun            Int’l Dot – Family  Relationships Day

Sep   15     Sun            Men Felt Hat Day             

Sep   15     Sun            National Gymnastics Day

Sep   15     Sun            National Linguine Day    

Sep   15     Sun            Shout of Dolores, Mexican Party Day      

Sep   15     Sun            National Women's Friendship Day

Sep   15     Sun            Wife Appreciation Day

 

Sep   16     Mon          American Legion Day

Sep   16     Mon          Collect Rocks Day

Sep   16     Mon          StepFamily Day

Sep   16     Mon          Mayflower Day

Sep   16     Mon          Mexican Independence Day

Sep   16     Mon          National Guacamole Day

Sep   16     Mon          National Play Doh Day

Sep   16     Mon          Working Parents Day

 

Sep   17     Tue            Citizenship Day

Sep   17     Tue            Constitution Day

Sep   17     Tue            International Patient Safety Day

Sep   17     Tue            National Apple Dumpling Day

 

Sep   18     Wed          National Cheeseburger Day

Sep   18     Wed          National First Love Day  Relationships            

Sep   18     Wed          National HIV/AIDS Awareness Day       

 

Sep   19     Thu            International Talk Like A Pirate Day

Sep   19     Thu              National Butterscotch Pudding Day

 

Sep   20     Fri              National Pepperoni Pizza Day

Sep   20     Fri              National Punch Day

 

Sep   21     Sat             International Day of Peace                         

Sep   21     Sat             National Dance Day        

Sep   21     Sat             Miniature Golf Day

Sep   21     Sat             Oktoberfest  begins in Germany-varied dates

Sep   21     Sat             World Gratitude Day

 

Sep   22     Sun            Business Women's Day

Sep   22     Sun            Elephant Appreciation Day

Sep   22     Sun            Falls Prevention Awareness Day

Sep   22     Sun            Hobbit Day     

Sep   22     Sun            National Ice Cream Cone Day

National Singles Day

National Singles Day

Sep   22     Sun            National Singles Day                

Sep   22     Sun            National White Chocolate Day

 

Sep   23     Mon          Autumn Equinox - Fall begins! - date varies

Sep   23     Mon          Meteorologically First Day of Fall

Sep   23     Mon          Checkers Day

Sep   23     Mon          Dog in Politics Day

 

Sep   24     Tue            National Cherries Jubilee Day

Sep   24     Tue            National Voter Registration Day     

         

 

Sep   25     Wed          Heritage Day  

Sep   25     Wed          National Comic Book Day                          

Sep   25     Wed          National Cooking Day              

Sep   25     Wed          National Lobster Day

 

Sep   26     Thu            Johnny Appleseed Day                      

Sep   26     Thu            National Dumpling Day                    

Sep   26     Thu            National Family Day       

Sep   26     Thu            National Pancake Day

 

Sep   27     Fri              Crush a Can Day

Sep   27     Fri              Native American Day

Sep   27     Fri              Pchum Ben -Religious Buddhist Holiday

Sep   27     Fri              World Tourism Day

 

Sep   28     Sat             Ask a Stupid Question Day

Sep   28     Sat             International Rabbit Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Drink Beer Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Good Neighbor Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Hunting and Fishing Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Public Lands Day

 

Sep   29     Sun            Confucius Day

Sep   29     Sun            Family Health & Fitness Day

Sep   29     Sun            Mysore Dasara Religious  Hindu      

Sep   29     Sun            National Coffee Day        

Sep   29     Sun            Navratri   Hindu, Religious Holidays      

Sep   29     Sun            Rosh Hashanah Jewish Holidays    

World Heart Day

World Heart Day

Sep   29     Sun            World Heart Day     

 

Sep   30     Mon          National Love People Day

Sep   30     Mon          National Mud Pack Day

Sep   30     Mon          International Podcast Day

 

Calvin On Learning

How One Student Grows For Self & Others

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Calvin Harris H.W. M.  isn’t simply teaching classes. He is deeply invested in how to better embody its lessons.  He takes to heart these words: “What An Educator Does In Teaching  Is To Make It Possible For The Students to Become Themselves” - quote by the Brazilian educator and philosopher Paulo Reglus Neves Freire known for his work with adult illiterates and for promoting critical pedagogy, a theory, and practice of helping students achieve critical consciousness. Calvin’s learning of Critical Consciousness came from a different path, for as a young person his search for Truth and self-understanding lead him to the teaching and later apprenticeship from Master Teacher Thane Walker, in his School The Prosperos, founded 1956 in Florida and operated in California since the 1960’s

Calvin uncovered his calling or dharma in 1969, in the Prospers, and his ultimate goal is to be able to facilitate change. To help build and sustain a holistic community, organized in a way so one can experience more intensive programs of self-discovery and learning. Calvin says: “My students, I want them to uncover extraordinary experiences, perspectives that they would not be able to experience singularly. Training that is immersive, found in intimate group settings using handpicked subject matter with  unique perspectives, all with the goal of providing a sense of  drawing forth from within, and creating  transformative knowing within the student, in both mind and in spirit.”  

 

This speaks to his teaching trajectory, of offering practices and a way for the teachings to have embodiment. He says: “I love the idea of belonging to a strong community collectively working to become a more aware, insightful, sensuousness, conscious organization. I like to support creating leaders and role models that can extend our community with a positive message. Extending to others the challenge and joy of practices to know thyself.

I like the feel of working with others,  of when I am conversing, eating, drinking, exercising, just moving with conscious intention surrounded by others, all who are doing the work – then I am at home, living my dharma in the core of beingness.” 

A Focus On Living by Calvin

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Empowering Yourself To Begin

 by Calvin Harris, H. W. M.

You’ve  come up with an idea or goal to put into action — whether it’s eating healthier or finding a perfect travel place or  starting a business — Now comes the question, how to begin?

 

In some cases, you can look to someone who is already doing it and then reenact their strategy which can prove useful. Learning from experience is a great way to gain confidence and accelerate your own learning curve. I benefit from such observations myself.

 

But it’s equally important to remember that these habits and systems, are strategies that successful people realized while on their journey to success, what tools they are using today is probably not the same ones they began with.

 

You might want to stay cognizant to their tools and optimal running practices,  they could be unworkable in getting your concept started because  there is a difference between  what is operational and what is a starting point.

 

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Therefore,  just copying their style can erode your confidence in what you are doing if you are not conscious of your present starting situation and resources vs someone  using  a time tested ongoing successful strategy and their resources.

Not paying attention can often make you feel like you lack the required resources to even get started. Especially If you are only looking at their present optimal operation.  You can feel or even convince yourself that you need to buy more things, or learn new skills, or meet more people before you can even take the first step toward your goals, and dollars to donuts, that’s not true.

For examples.

You decide you want to do a  weekend bicycling road trip. You have the proper bike and gear, but you start to notice Johnny De Gearpacker and Mildred the Adventuress,  who have spent a fortune on gear: rainproof  tents, moisture-wicking clothes, special bike tires, and shoes.  Now I’m not saying gear is not important. Great gear can make your travels much easier on the road, but it’s not required. You don’t need new bike shoes to start riding. You don’t need new cooking pots to start eating healthy. And you don’t need a new mountain bike to start weekend travel trips. Those things might be optimal, but they are not needed in the beginning.

You can argue that it’s hard to travel light without the right bike gear, but the truth is you could make it work with what you have now.

 

When starting a business, and having caught the entrepreneurial spirit, one can become obsessed with having “the Best,” in office space and equipment. I came to find out that success could happen with a laptop, cellphone, and a corner of a table at a coffee shop. Yep, that is without great office space and staff.

 

Avoiding starts by demanding the Optimal, is what I have seen in many talented people, with their claiming to need to “learn more” or “get all of their ducks in a row”  before they start. This often becomes a crutch that can prevent you from moving forward on the stuff that actually matters.

 

Obsessing about the Optimal can be a clever way to prevent yourself from doing the hard work or gaining the habits necessary for your success.

 

If you are a regular reader to my blogs, you know, I’m all for optimizing and improvement. Your gains fill me with joy. Altered habits, no matter how small, leave me cheering. Increase levels of consistency make my heart race. But don’t let visions of the Ultimate prevent you from getting started in the first place.

 

A bad start can always be improved, but obsessing over the perfect outcome will never bring you anywhere near your goal on its own. If you want to be happy set about actions that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and moves you towards your goals.