Where To Turn Next?

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Hey You,

Have you ever wondered where you are on your journey, be it to career success or that spiritual path or just your personal best?  More importantly, where to turn next?

When you're unsure of the steps ahead, it's helpful to pause, look within, and reorient yourself.  Self-reflection is not just for when you are in the middle of a mess or problems. Self-reflection may even help you avoid problems by providing space to think and be more purposeful about your actions and intentions. And coupled with the help of a coach or mentor it can be especially helpful for getting clarity on where you want to go.

 When working with yourself or with a coach, be mindful to give yourself:

• Space for self-reflection

• To look for a fresh perspective

• To challenge your thinking where it is stuck

• Look for ways to support new ideas and get through difficulties

• Learn to hold yourself Accountable for your plans and own your authenticity.

 

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Now this means you will develop a relationship with yourself, a very important one.  One where you find you are the key & door to your future, from your past, into the now. Nobody else can find or rescue you if you don't do it.  In the process, you will find that you develop love with yourself, not egotistic but a genuine love (agape) for your essence.

If you need help, remember you can call on me, as a Life Coach for you. I will not provide so much the answers, as much as help you ask the needed questions. Questions to help you find your own answers.

The Focus Is Sustainability

Focus for Sustainable Success

Focus for Sustainable Success

Focus Your Energy for  Sustainability

by Calvin Harris H.W., M.

Well the holiday season is over and the New Year’s resolutions have been written. But before you put those plans into action I would like for you to consider the following information and then maybe review what you wrote,  you may find from this story some useful tips for your strategy to accomplished your resolutions.

 I was reminded in an article by James Clear,  a well know author,  and fellow life coach, that in 1996, Southwest Airlines was faced with a weighty decision.

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It was in the 1980’s that Southwest Airlines  had strategically transformed itself  from being a small regional carrier to one with a more national presence.  Note that this was a  time that many airline companies were losing money or going belly-up.  Southwest as a result, was in demand, so much so that more than 100 cities were calling for Southwest to expand service to their location.

Southwest had a decision to make. It answer was to turned down over 95% of the offers and streamlined service to  just 4 new locations in 1996. A significant number of offers  were left on the table.

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Their reasoning for turning down so much business is explained in Jim Collins  book Great by Choice,  he claims that a secrets to Southwest's success was its willingness, of company executives, to set what is called an upper bound limit for growth.

 

What Is Upper Bound Limits ?

Understanding ups and downs in a business is important, thus looking at Southwest beginning in the 1970’s, and for nearly 30 years thereafter,  Southwest was the only airline company that made consecutive profits each year.

Southwest grew It’s business incrementally each year, for the executives of the company choose  a pace of growth that they could sustain,  while maintaining the airlines culture and profitability. This is called a upper bound limit for growth.

This is an approach that has been applied to many goals, both business and otherwise. It tends to be used by most people but it is inverted, or starting from the opposite direction, or what can be called starting from a lower bound limited.  Example of how we hear it used or experienced is :

  • An individual might say, “I want to lose at least 10 pounds this month.”

  • A Businessperson might say, “I want to get at least 5 projects done and off my desk each day.”

  • A writer might say, “I want to write at least 500 word each day.”

  • The get-in-shape guy or gal, might say, “I want to be at the gym at least 3 times a week.”

The focus is only on the lower bound limits: the minimum threshold.  Yet that implied assumption is, “If you can do more than the minimum, go for it.” So what happens? We are going for it, all out, usually in a unsustainable manner that does not allow us to maintain our pace over time at the current rate or nor increase our levels over time.

Now, the obverse, which is turning that over, were we work from the upper bound limits of our goals and behaviors would look more like this:

  • “I want to lose at least 10 pounds this month, but not more than 15.”

  • “I want to have at least 5 projects done today, but not more than 10.”

  • “I want to write at least 500 words today, but not more than 1,000.”

  • “I want to be at the gym least 3 times a week, but not more than 5.”

What you are creating using the upper bound limits in your life planing, is what can seem like a magical zone of long-term growth: Where you are pushing enough to make progress, but not so much that it is unsustainable.

A Safety Margin for Growth

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We can all agree, the lower limit is important, yet the upper limit can be critical.  The diagram provided by James Clear shows finding that zone that allow for  growth in a mid-range that is just slow enough to be  methodically sustain without burnout or injury to progress. Being too aggressive in pursuit of growth  could have you quickly hitting a plateau, damage or burnout.

Strategically adding a Margin for Growth to your resolutions will avoid going too fast and helping you stay on track to success within that margin of growth.

This is all about the power to succeed.  Your setting an upper limit allows you an easier way to sustain your progress. And the power to consciously observe your behavior and habits to move progress forward and to attain success of your real goals.

 The Take- Away

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When you are ready,  look again at your resolutions,  check it to see if you have set bounds? Is there just a lower bound limit?  This year for a better chance of success, lets simply add - Upper bound limits - as a focus drive to your plan of action and then slowly increase your output.

Say you want to be the gym person and start working out. Most people would focus on the lower bound limit and say, “I have to start exercising for at least 30 minutes a day and go on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.”

Instead, you could start with your upper bound limit and say, “I am not allowed to exercise for more than 5 minutes on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

This may seem like an over the top example but by setting an incredibly easy upper limit, you are creating a habit,  a process of getting up and going to the gym. by building that sustaining behavior of consistently going to the gym then makes the next component easier to achieve.  Now once you’ve establish the routine over and over again, you can raise the time limit as much as needed for success.

You are achieving small progress every day, fly efforts, rather than doing as much as humanly possible in one day and then quitting. Our focus is sustainability, Consciously creating habits for success by doing things you can sustain.

Urge for Adventure January 2020

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The 2010s were an incredible decade that showed the resiliency of Humans to weather and rise above major economic shifts. The technology that was developed during this time helped set the stage for the upcoming decade—a decade that will rival the industrial revolution in terms of how technology will change our lives. However, how well we can consciously adapt, share, fashion and benefit from the decade to come depends upon our efforts toward a conscious upward spiral from our personal mission statements and execution of good habits. This effect will be observed in work habits, financial practices, and or interpersonal relationships.  Not only singularly but this effect happens for our families, the organizations, and communities in which we belong.  

All humans have myriad opportunities to create less harm and ultimately generate benefits to the people and planet around them. A Mentor or Life Coach can help the vast majority of us who want to make a positive contribution to the world through our social interactions, our work, our commitments. Life Coaching can help you discover that by improving a single person’s day, or by employing conscious right-useness in a community, through sharing and supporting is a  committed way to helping each other succeed, in whatever the endeavor.

Now, is maybe the time to think about what small step you could take to improve your performance one small factor at a time. Start by checking out some of the activities you could participate in from this Calendar page of activities below.

Those wanting to move a bit more swiftly Check out Calvin’s Mentor and Life Coaching articles, podcasts, videos, and courses offered at low-cost, for self-scheduling professional development, that helps you stay on your cutting edge of achievement.

 

JANUARY 2020 MONTH LONG EVENT

Adopt A Rescued Bird Month

Bath Safety Month

Be Kind to Food Servers Month

Birth Defects Month

Black Diamond Month

Book Blitz Month

California Dried Plum Month

Celebrate every stage of Life

Celebrate every stage of Life

Celebration of Life Month

Cervical Health Awareness Month

Children Impacted By Parent's Cancer Month

Clap 4 Health Month

Living Life with Purpose

Living Life with Purpose

Financial Wellness Month

Get A Balanced Life Month

Get Organized Month

International Brain Teaser Month

International Change Your Stars Month





International Child-Centered Divorce Month

International Creativity Month

International New Years Resolutions Month for Businesses

International Quality of Life Month

International Wayfinding Month

International Wealth Mentality Month

Learn to Ski and Snowboard Month

Menudo Month

National Be On-Purpose Month

National Braille Literacy Month

National Clean Up Your Computer Month




National Codependency Awareness Month

National Glaucoma Awareness Month

National Hot Tea Month

National Mail Order Gardening Month

For More than Health Wealth and Happiness

For More than Health Wealth and Happiness

National Mentoring Month

National Personal Self-Defense Awareness Month

National Personal Trainer Awareness Month

National Polka Music Month

National Poverty in America Awareness Month

National Radon Action Month

National Skating Month

National Soup Month

National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month

National Stalking Awareness Month

National Sunday Supper Month

National Volunteer Blood Donor Month

Oatmeal Month

Self-help Group Awareness Month

Self-Love Month

Shape Up United States Month

Teen Driving Awareness Month

Train Your Dog Month

Thyroid Awareness Month

Walk Your Pet Month

Worldwide Rising Star

World Neuroendocrine Cancer

 JANUARY MULTI - DAY & WEEKLY EVENTS

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New Year's Resolutions Week:  Jan. 01 - 08 

Silent Record Week: Jan. 01 - 07




Someday We'll Laugh About This Week: Jan. 02 - 08

Home Office Safety and Security Week: Jan. 05 -11

National Folic Acid Awareness Week: Jan. 05 -11

Dating & Life Coaches Recognition Week: Jan. 05 -11

National Lose Weight/Feel Great Week: Jan. 05 -11



Carnival Season Jan. 6- Feb 25

Consumer Electronics Show

Consumer Electronics Show

International Consumer Electronics Show: Jan. 07-10

No Tillage Days: Jan. 07-10

Elvis' Birthday Celebration Week: Jan. 08-11





National Mocktail Week: Jan. 12-18

National Soccer Coaches of America Week: Jan. 15-19

National Fresh Squeezed Juice Week: Jan. 17-23

Week of Christian Unity: Jan. 18-25

Bald Eagle Appreciation Days: Jan. 18-19

Int’l Snowmobile Safety and Awareness Week: Jan. 18-26

Healthy Weight Week: Jan. 19-25

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Hunt For Happiness Week: Jan. 19-25

National Activity Professionals Week: Jan.  19-25 

Nat’l Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetists : Jan. 19-25

National Handwriting Analysis Week:  Jan. 19-25

Snow Care For Troops Awareness Week: Jan. 19-25

No Name Calling Days:  Jan. 20-24

Sugar Awareness Days: Jan. 20-24


Kitchen and Bath Show Days: Jan. 21-23 

International Hoof-Care Days: Jan. 21-24 

Sundance Film Festival: Jan. 23- Feb. 02

Year of the Rat

Year of the Rat

Chinese New Year  Jan 25 - Feb 08

US Nationals Snow Sculpting Days: Jan. 25- Feb. 02

Clean Out Your Inbox Week: Jan. 26 - 31

Meat Week: Jan. 26 - Feb 01

National School Choice Week:  Jan. 26 - Feb. 01

Tax Identity Theft Days: Jan. 26-30

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Mentoring

National Medical Group Practice Week: Jan. 27 -Feb 01

National Mentoring Summit: Jan. 29-31 

Angouleme International Comics Festival: Jan. 30 - Feb 02

 

JANUARY DAILY EVENTS 2020

        

Commitment Day

Commitment Day

Jan   01    Wed         New Years Day

Jan   01    Wed        Copyright Law Day

Jan   01    Wed        Commitment Day



Jan   01    Wed        Ellis Island Day

Jan   01    Wed        First Foot Day

Jan   01    Wed        Global Family Day

Jan   01    Wed        Kid Inventors Day

Jan   01    Wed        National Bloody Mary Day

Jan   01    Wed        National Hangover Day

Jan   01    Wed        Polar Bear Plunge Day

Jan   01    Wed        Public Domain day

Jan   01    Wed        World Day of Peace

Jan   01    Wed        Z Day

 

Jan   02    Thu National Buffet Day

Jan   02    Thu National Cream Puff Day

Personal Training

Personal Training

Jan   02    Thu National Motivation and Inspiration Day

Jan   02    Thu National Personal Trainer Awareness Day





Jan   02    Thu National Pet Travel and Safety Day

Jan   02    Thu National Science Fiction Day

Jan   02    Thu World Introvert Day

 Jan   03    Fri   Festival of Sleep Day

Jan   03    Fri   J.R.R. Tolkien Day

Jan   03    Fri   National Chocolate Covered Cherry Day

Jan   03    Fri   National Drinking Straw Day

Jan   03    Fri   National Fruitcake Toss Day

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I am a Mentor

Jan   04    Sat   I am a Mentor Day












Jan   04    Sat   National Spaghetti Day

Jan   04    Sat   National Trivia Day

Jan   04    Sat   Pop Music Chart Day

Jan   04    Sat   Tom Thumb Day

Jan   04    Sat   World Braille Day

Jan   04    Sat   World Hypnotism Day

 Jan   05    Sun  National Bird Day

Jan   05    Sun  National Keto Day

Jan   05    Sun  National Screenwriters Day

Jan   05    Sun  National Whipped Cream Day

 Jan  06     Mon National Bean Day

Jan  06     Mon National Cuddle Up Day

Jan  06     Mon National Shortbread Day

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Human AI Connections

Jan  06     Mon Nat’l Technology Day

Jan  06     Mon National Thank God It’s Monday Day

Jan  06     Mon Nat’l  Weigh-in Day

Jan  06     Mon Three Kings Day -Epiphany

Jan   07    Tue  Harlem Globetrotters Day

Jan   07    Tue  I’m Not Going To Take It Anymore Day

Jan   07    Tue  Int’l Programmers Day

Jan   07    Tue  National Bobblehead Day

Jan   07    Tue  National Tempura Day

Jan   07    Tue  Old Rock Day

Jan   08    Wed Earth’s Rotation Day

Jan   08    Wed National Argyle Day

Mentor Awareness Day

Mentor Awareness Day

Jan   08    Wed Nat’l Bubble Bath Day

Jan   08    Wed National English Toffee Day

Jan   08    Wed Nat’l Joy-Germ Day

Jan   08    Wed National Mentoring Day

Jan   08    Wed National Winter Skin Relief Day

Jan   08    Wed Show and Tell Day at Work

Jan   08    Wed War on Poverty Day      

Jan   09    Thu    Balloon Ascension Day

Jan   09    Thu    National Apricot Day

Jan   09    Thu    Nat’l Law Enforcement Appreciation Day

Jan   09    Thu    National Static Electricity Day 

Jan 10      Fri   National Bittersweet Chocolate Day

Jan 10      Fri   National Cut Your Energy Costs Day

Jan 10      Fri   National Oysters Rockefeller Day

Jan 10      Fri   National Save The Eagles Day

 Jan  11     Sat   Cigarettes are Hazardous to Your Health Day

Jan  11     Sat   Learn Your Name in Morse Code Day

Jan  11     Sat   National Human Trafficking Awareness Day

Jan  11     Sat   National Milk Day

Jan  11     Sat   Nat’l Step in Puddle & Splash Your Friends

Jan  11     Sat   National Vision Board Day

 

Jan  12     Sun  National Curried Chicken Day

Jan  12     Sun  National Hot Tea Day

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Jan  12     Sun  National Kiss A Ginger Day

Jan  12     Sun  National Marzipan Day

Jan  12     Sun  National Pharmacist Day

Jan  12     Sun  National Sunday Supper Day     

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 Jan  13     Mon Make Your Dream Come True Day

Jan  13     Mon National Clean Off Your Desk Day

Jan  13     Mon Korean American Day

Jan  13     Mon National Peach Melba Day

Jan  13     Mon National Rubber Ducky Day

Jan  13     Mon Stephen Foster Memorial Day

Jan  13     Mon National Sticker Day 

Jan  13     Mon World Public Radio Broadcasting Day

 

Jan 14      Tue  International Kite Day 

Jan 14      Tue  National Dress Up Your Pet Day

Jan 14      Tue  National Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day

Jan 14      Tue  National Shop for Travel Day

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time to organize

Jan 14      Tue  Organize Your Home Day

Jan 14      Tue  Poetry at Work Day

Jan 14      Tue  Ratification Day  

Jan 15      Wed   National Bagel Day

Jan 15      Wed   National Booch Day

Jan 15      Wed   National Hat Day

Jan 15      Wed   National Strawberry Ice Cream Day 

Jan  16     Thu  Appreciate a Dragon Day

Jan  16     Thu  Get to Know Your Customers Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Bean Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Fig Newton Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Nothing Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Quinoa Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Religious Freedom Day

Jan  16     Thu  National Without a Scalpel Day

Jan 17      Fri   Cable Car Day

Jan 17      Fri   National Bootlegger’s Day

Jan 17      Fri   National Hot Buttered Rum Day

Jan 17      Fri   National Hot Heads Chili Day

Jan 17      Fri   Popeye the Sailor Day  

Jan 18      Sat   National Use Your Gift Card Day

Jan 18      Sat   National Michigan Day

Jan 18      Sat   National Peking Duck Day

Jan 18      Sat   National Thesaurus Day

Jan 18      Sat   National Winnie The Pooh Day 

Jan 19      Sun  National Popcorn Day

Jan 19      Sun  National Recognition of Tin Can Day

Jan 19      Sun  World Snow Day

Jan 19      Sun  World Quark Day 

Jan  20     Mon  National Blue Monday Day   

Jan  20     Mon  National Cheese Lovers Day

Jan  20     Mon  National Crowd Feed Day

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Twin D J’s

Jan  20     Mon  National Disc Jockey (DJ)  Day

Jan  20     Mon  Nat’l Martin Luther King Jr. Day

Jan  20     Mon  National Penguin Awareness Day 

Jan 21      Tue  International Sweatpants Day

Jan 21      Tue  National Granola Bar Day

Jan 21      Tue  National Hugging Day 

Jan 22      Wed   Celebration of Life Day

Jan 22      Wed   Library Shelfie Day

 Jan 22     Wed   National Blonde Brownie Day 

Jan 23      Thu National Handwriting Day

Jan 23      Thu National Pie Day

Jan 24      Fri   Beer Can Appreciation Day

Jan 24      Fri   Global Belly Laugh Day

Jan 24      Fri   National Compliment Day

Jan 24      Fri   National Peanut Butter Day 

Jan 25      Sat   A Room of One’s Own Day

Jan 25      Sat   National Irish Coffee Day

Jan 25      Sat   National Opposite Day

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Seeds of Life

Jan 25      Sat   National Seed Swap Day 

Jan 26      Sun  Australia Day

Jan 26      Sun  Dental Drill Appreciation Day

Jan 26      Sun  National Green Juice Day

Jan 26      Sun  National Peanut Brittle Day

Jan 26      Sun  National Spouses Day 

Jan 27      Mon   National Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day

Jan 27      Mon   National Chocolate Cake Day

Jan 27      Mon   National Geographic Day

Jan 27      Mon   Thomas Crapper Day 

Jan  28     Tue  Data Privacy Day

Jan  28     Tue  National Blueberry Pancake Day

Jan  28     Tue  National Have Fun At Work Day

Jan  28     Tue  National Kazoo Day

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Jan  28     Tue  National Plan for Vacation Day






Jan  28     Tue  Thank a Plug-in Developer Day 

Jan 29      Wed    Curmudgeons Day

Jan 29      Wed    Freethinkers Day

Jan 29      Wed    International Puzzle Day

Jan 29      Wed    National Corn Chip Day

Jan 29      Wed    Seeing Eye Dog Day 

Jan 30      Thu Inane Answering Machine Message Day

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Plain or filled

Jan 30      Thu National Croissant Day

Jan 30      Thu Thank Your Mentor Day 

Jan 31      Fri   Fun at Work

Jan 31      Fri   National Backward Day

Jan 31      Fri   National Big Wig Day

Jan 31      Fri   National Hot Chocolate Day

Jan 31      Fri   National Inspire Your Heart with Art Day

Urge for Adventure December 2019

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HOLIDAY CALENDAR DECEMBER 2017

Hey guys it’s December, a month that swirls with  nostalgia.  That sometimes strips you bear. Now is the time to go deep within your heart,  be conscious of those places buried,  for you can count on December to jar  them open and even bring it to the surface. Feel the light of disclosure finish what you started and feel the peace. Below are some activities that if you remain  conscious while doing,  may help review, analyze and  release the past year while new resolutions for Change moves in.

 

DECEMBER MONTH OBSERVANCES

 AIDS Awareness Month

Awareness Month of Making a Difference

Bingo Month

Buckwheat Month Link

National Drunk and Drugged Driving (3D) Prevention Month

The Plan

The Plan

National Impaired Driving Prevention Month

National Tie Month

National Write a Business Plan Month

Operation Santa Paws (December 1-December 24)

Quince and Watermelon Month

Root Vegetables and Exotic Fruits Month

Safe Toys and Gifts Month

Spiritual Literacy Month

Tomato and Winter Squash Month

Universal Human Rights Month

Best Bro Note

Best Bro Note

Write a Friend Month

Worldwide Food Service Safety Month

Youngsters on The Air Month 













 

 

DECEMBER MULTI - DAY & WEEKLY EVENTS

The Season to find the Light

The Season to find the Light

 Advent Season: Nov 30 – Dec 24

Clerc-Gallaudet Week: Dec 01- 07

National Cookie Cutter Week: Dec 01- 07

National Hand Washing Awareness Week: Dec 01 – 07

Older Driver Safety Awareness Week: Dec 01 – 07

Recipe Greetings For The Holidays Week: Dec 01 – 07

 International Coelenterate Biology Week: Dec 02 – 06

 Computer Science Education Week: Dec 09 - 15

  Gluten-free Baking Week  Dec:15-22

Cookie Exchange Week: Dec 16 - 20

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Saturnalia (ancient festival) Dec: 17-23







Hanukkah

Hanukkah

 Chanukah or Hanukkah Dec 22 - 30






Kwanzaa

Kwanzaa

Kwanzaa Dec 26, 2019 -Jan 01, 2020

 

 

 

 

DECEMBER DAILY EVENTS 2019

 

Dec 01    Sun   Antarctica Day

Dec  01   Sun  Bifocals at the Monitor Liberation Day

Dec  01   Sun  Clark Kent’s Birthday

Dec  01   Sun  Day With(out) Art Day

Dec 01    Sun  National Eat a Red Apple Day

Dec 01    Sun  Rosa Parks Day



World Aids Awareness

World Aids Awareness

Dec 01    Sun  World Aids Awareness Day




 

Dec 02    Mon  Cider Monday

Dec 02    Mon  Cyber Monday

Dec 02    Mon  Int’l Day for the Abolition of Slavery

Dec 02    Mon  National Fritters Day

Dec 02    Mon  National Mutt Day

Dec 02    Mon  National Special Education Day

Dec 02    Mon  Safety Razor Day

       

Dec  03    Tue  Int’l Day of Persons with Disabilities

Dec  03    Tue  Make a Gift Day

Dec 03    Tue  National Roof Over Your Head Day   

 

Dec  04    Wed National Cookie Day

Dec  04    Wed National Dice Day

Dec  04    Wed Santa's List Day

Dec  04    Wed Wear Brown Shoes Day

A Spa Day for Self

A Spa Day for Self

 

Dec  05    Thu  Bathtub Party Day

Dec  05    Thu  International Day of the Reef

Dec  05    Thu  International Ninja Day

Dec  05    Thu  Int’l Volunteer for Economic & Social Development Day

Dec  05    Thu  Sacher Torte Day

Dec  05    Thu  Prohibition Repeal Day

Dec  05    Thu  World Soil Day

 

Dec  06    Fri    Faux Fur Friday

Dec  06    Fri    International Mitten Tree Day

Dec  06    Fri    National Gazpacho Day

Dec  06    Fri    National Microwave Oven Day

Dec  06    Fri    National Miners’ Day

Dec  06    Fri    National Pawnbrokers Day

Dec  06    Fri    St. Nicholas Day

 

 

Dec 07    Sat   International Civil Aviation Day

Dec 07    Sat   National Cotton Candy Day

Dec 07    Sat   National Letter Writing Day

Dec 07    Sat   Nat’l Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day

Dec 07    Sat   National Rhubarb Vodka Day

Dec 07    Sat   National Sky-warn Recognition Day

Dec 07    Sat   Nobel Prize Day

 

Dec  08    Sun  International Children's Day

Dec  08    Sun  National Brownie Day

Dec  08    Sun  Pretend to Be a Time Traveler Day

Dec  08    Sun  Take it in the Ear Day

 

Dec  09    Mon  Christmas Card Day

Dec  09    Mon  International Anti-Corruption Day

Dec  09    Mon  National Pastry Day

Dec  09    Mon  Weary Willie Day

 

Dec  10    Tue  Dewey Decimal System Day

Dec  10    Tue  Human Rights Day

Dec  10    Tue  Jane Addams Day

       

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Dec  11    Wed International Mountain Day

Dec  11    Wed National Noodle Ring Day

Dec  11    Wed UNICEF Birthday

 

Dec  12    Thu  National Ambrosia Day

Dec  12    Thu  National Ding-a-Ling Day

Dec  12    Thu  National Gingerbread House Day

Dec  12    Thu  National Poinsettia Day

 

 

Dec  13    Fri    Ice Cream Day

Dec  13    Fri    National Christmas Jumper Day

Dec  13    Fri    National Cocoa Day

Dec  13    Fri    National Violin Day

Dec  13    Fri    National Day Of The Horse

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Dec  13    Fri    Official Lost and Found Day

Dec  13    Fri    Make Friends with Pathologist (Coroner) Day

Dec  13    Fri    National Salesperson Day

       

Dec  14    Sat   International Monkey Day 

Dec  14    Sat   National Bouillabaisse Day

Dec  14    Sat   National Wreaths Across America Day

Dec  14    Sat   Roast Chestnuts Day

 

Dec  15    Sun  Bill of Rights Day

Dec  15    Sun  National Cat Herders Day

Dec  15    Sun  National Lemon Cupcake Day

 

Dec  16    Mon  National Chocolate-covered Anything Day

Dec 16    Mon  Parent’s Barbie and Barney Denial Day

 

Dec 17    Tue  National Maple Syrup Day

Dec 17    Tue  Wright Brothers Day

 

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Immigrants in peril

Dec  18    Wed International Migrants Day

Dec  18    Wed National Bake Cookies Day

Dec  18    Wed National Roast Suckling Pig Day

Dec  18    Wed World Arabic Language Day

 

 

Dec  19   Thu  Look for Evergreen Tree Day

Dec  19   Thu  National Hard Candy Day

Dec  19   Thu  National Oatmeal Muffin Day

Dec  19   Thu  National Re-Gifting Day

        

Dec  20    Fri    National Go Caroling Day

Dec  20    Fri    National Sangria Day

Dec  20    Fri    National Ugly Sweater Day

Dec  20    Fri    National Underdog Day

 

Dec  21    Sat   Forefather's Day

Dec  21    Sat   National Crossword Puzzle Day

Dec  21    Sat   National Flashlight Day

Dec  21    Sat   National French Fried Shrimp Day

Dec  21    Sat   National Homeless Remembrance Day

Dec  21    Sat   National Humbug Day

Dec  21    Sat   National Look on the Bright Side Day

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Dec  21    Sat   Winter Solstice

Dec  21    Sat   Yule – Day of Winter Solstice

 

Dec  22    Sun  National Date Nut Bread Day

 

Dec  23    Mon  World Festivus Day  

Dec  23    Mon  National Pfeffernusse Day

Dec  23    Mon  National Roots Day

 

Dec  24    Tue  Christmas Eve

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Dec  24    Tue  National Eggnog Day

 

Dec  25    Wed Christmas Day

Dec  25    Wed Grav Mass Day

Dec  25    Wed National Pumpkin Pie Day

Dec  25    Wed No "L" Day, a. k. a.  A'phabet Day

 

 

Dec  26    Thu  Boxing Day (Canada)

Dec  26    Thu  National Candy Cane Day

Dec  26    Thu  National Thank You Note Day

Dec  26    Thu  National Whiner’s Day

 

Dec  27    Fri    National Fruitcake Day

No Interruptions Day

No Interruptions Day

Dec  27    Fri    No Interruptions Day

 





Dec  28    Sat   National Card Playing Day

Dec  28    Sat   National Chocolate Candy Day

 

Dec  29    Sun  National Pepper Pot Day

Dec  29    Sun  Tick Tock Day

 

Dec  30    Mon  National Bacon Day

Dec  30    Mon  National Bicarbonate of Soda Day

 

 

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DEC 31    Tue  Universal Hour of Peace (11:30, 31 Dec – 12:30, 01 Jan)

DEC 31    Tue  Make Up Your Mind Day

DEC 31    Tue  New Year's Eve

DEC 31    Tue  National Champagne Day

DEC 31    Tue  Unlucky Day turns Lucky.




We are of Universal Spirit

We are of Universal Spirit


To Optimize Your Purpose

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To Optimize Your Purpose Is It Effective Or  Efficient?

Many times, when people seek me out it is because they are at some kind of a crossroads either in their career or life in generally. It is because of some decision they want to make about their Life purpose. This articles focuses on two key factors to making change.

At a recent cocktail party, the conversation got around to favorite Iconic Movie Stars. Audrey Hepburn was one of the names that came up. It’s strange how I latched on to what some of the “older” cocktail guests had to say about her story.

Young and fresh-faced Audrey rose to fame in the 1950s, in fact to become one of the most celebrated actresses of her time. In 1953, Audrey Hepburn became the first actress to win an Academy Award, a Golden Globe Award, and the British Academy of Film and Television Arts Awards for a single performance: in her leading role performance of Roman Holiday. a ‘romantic comedy’ leading role in the film.

Matter of fact, over half a century later, she remains one of only 15 people to earn an "EGOT" that is a person winning all four major entertainment awards: Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony. This group is small, yet as diverse as John Gielgud, Whoopi Goldberg, Mel Brooks, Rita Moreno, Andrew Lloyd Weber, and John Legend, to name a few, all different, yet iconic – but excuse me, I digress.

By the 1960s, Audrey Hepburn averaged one new film per year and was on a trajectory to being a Hollywood Legend.

But then in 1967, at the height of her popularity she stopped her career as an Actress. Now I want you to image someone in this position, only 30 years of age and has put the brakes on a life course.

We find her making a life path change and a switch in careers, we see Audrey spending the next 25 years working for UNICEF, you know that branch of the United Nations that provides food and healthcare to children in war-torn countries. Her performances now are as a volunteer worker throughout Africa, South America, and Asia.

I think you are now wondering what this story has to do with our title Optimizing Your Purpose Efficiency or Effectiveness? Let’s put away Audrey’s story for the moment. Let me build a kind of framework  from which to make this all clear.

Efficient vs. Effective

Let’ start with you. We can all agree with the concept that You get one, lifetime on this plane of existence. How do you decide the best way to spend your time? Professional Productivity Expert’s will advise that you focus on being effective rather than being efficient.

What is the difference? Efficiency is about getting more things done. Effectiveness is about getting the right things done. Peter Drucker, an educator, management consultant, and author, whose writings contributed to the philosophical and practical foundations of the modern business corporation once encapsulated the differences in this quote, "There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all."

That makes plain the idea that making progress is about being productive on the right things. But how do you decide “the right things"? One widely used approach is the Pareto Principle, which is more commonly known as the 80/20 Rule.

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The 80/20 Rule was introduced by 20th century economic sociologist, Wilfried Fritz Pareto, (who I paraphrase,) stated “that, in any particular domain, a small number of things account for the majority of the results. For example, 80 percent of the land in Italy is owned by 20 percent of the people.” Or, 20% of drivers cause 80% of all traffic accidents. The point is that the majority of the results are driven by a minority of causes.

The Upside of the 80/20 Rule

When applied to your life and career, the 80/20 Rule helps focus you to separate the vital few from the trivial of the many.

In your own life, this strategy can be useful to find your time-wasting actives or to look at the sources of  some of your problems. You may find that the majority of your complaints come from a handful of problem situations. The 80/20 Rule would suggest that you can clear out your logjams or backlogging circumstance by identifying and stopping the engagements within them.

The 80/20 Rule is like a form of Martial arts that teaches self-defense, improves confidence and self-esteem for your life and work. By finding precisely the right area to apply action, you can get more results with less effort.

Like many things it is a double edge sword, there is a downside to this approach, which many times  is overlooked. To illustrate let’s return to Audrey Hepburn.

The Downside of the 80/20 Rule

It is 1967. Audrey Hepburn at the prime of her career finds herself trying to decide how to purposefully spend her time.

Hepburn's first career, acting on stage and screen. Her next career, acts of service and thus in December 1992, she’s awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom for her efforts, this is the highest civilian award granted by the United States.

If  the use of the 80/20 Rule  had been part of her decision-making process, her life may have been very different. Let’s say she followed her trajectory to stardom, what would she do,  the clear answer is: do more romantic comedies. They gave her large audiences, earned her awards, and was an obvious path to greater fame and fortune.

Setting that aside, scenario two, we would take into account her desire to help children through UNICEF, the 80/20 Rule could have pointed out that doing more romantic comedies was still the best option because of her maximized earning power and she could have donated more of her earnings to UNICEF.

Here comes the rub, that would have been all well and good if she wanted to continue acting. But she didn't want to continue her career life as an actress. This reveals the perceptual bias that many of us have but one which contradicts the reality of  the life lived.  

You see her perception of herself was that of one in service  to others, and no reasonable analysis of the 80/20 Rule would have in 1967  suggested that volunteering for UNICEF was the most effective use of her time.

This is the downside of the 80/20 Rule, when applied to the start of a new path, it will never look like the most effective option in the beginning.

Optimizing for Your Past or Your Future

James Clear, Life Coach and the author of Atomic Habits, which advocates “small changes that will transform your habits.” gives us this insight: “Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, worked on Wall Street and climbed the corporate ladder to become senior vice-president of a hedge fund before leaving it all in 1994 to start the company.

If Bezos had applied the 80/20 Rule in 1993 in an attempt to discover the most effective areas to focus on in his career, it is virtually impossible to imagine that founding an internet company would have been on the list. At that point in time, there is no doubt that the most effective path—whether measured by financial gain, social status, or otherwise—would have been the one where he continued his career in finance.

The 80/20 Rule is calculated and determined by your recent effectiveness. Whatever seems like the "highest value" use of your time in any given moment will be dependent on your previous skills and current opportunities.

The 80/20 Rule will help you find the useful things in your past and get more of them in the future. But if you don’t want your future to be more of your past, then you need a different approach.

The downside of being effective is that you often optimize for your past rather than for your future.”

Where to Go From Here

James Clear talks a lot about changing habits, creating better habits, making better decisions, equaling  living a  better life.  I agree with him on these points. He speaks of giving enough practice and enough time, so the thing that previously seemed ineffective can become very effective, and you get good at what you practice. I have found that to be true in my own life.

When Audrey Hepburn changed course in 1967, from acting to volunteering, this may not have seemed nearly as effective a career choice. But three decades later, she received the Presidential Medal of Freedom—a remarkable feat, a satisfaction she is unlikely to have accomplished by acting in more romantic comedies.

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The process of learning a new skill or starting a new course or taking on a new adventure of any sort will often appear to be in the beginning, an ineffectual use of time compared to the other tools and abilities you already know when applying 80/20 Rule analysis The new project or endeavor will seem like a waste of time. But that doesn't mean it's the wrong decision only a change in the focus of perception, and the Conscious decision to optimize your Past or your Future.



FOOTNOTES

Did you enjoy that article? Here are two more things you might like:

  • Online course: My Cultural History Course that speak to unconscious and conscious societal programs that dictate our actions and decisions.

  • Prosperos Assembly 2020: That speak to you, your inner most being, community, about unconscious habits innovation, and motivation.

Urge for Adventure November 2019

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Hey Guys,

November is here, that mid-point between Autumn and Winter. Bringing you traditional, yet new and creative ways to engage with life, with old and new friends, as well as with family.

A chance to engage in activities both inside and outside the home this month. Keep watch, you will find something, you did not know before about yourself. It may come from taking in the sensation of colorful leaves, smells of cooking and spices. Maybe even in the feel of cooling temperatures. Some have let their beards and mustaches grow. Some stay warm by the fire and a good book. Others watching Thanksgiving specials of their favorite TV shows. Still others braving the elements to see the new movie releases. You can taste the anticipation of Thanksgiving meals, things to stuff your face with deliciousness. Still others prepare for the Black Friday Shopping.

One of the best ways to learn something new about yourself is to listen to yourself while you are in conversation with others, you may be surprised at what you hear.

The month of Thanksgiving is a time to consider your harvest, and to thankfully celebrate your community and family's collective bounty. Now if you add something different or additional to the mix check out the Calendar of events below.

November Monthly Events

·         Adopt A Turkey Month

·         Banana Pudding Lovers Month

·         Eye Donation Month

·         Greens and Plantains Month

·         Historic Bridge Awareness Month

·         International Picture Book Month

·         Lung Cancer Awareness Month

·         Military Family Appreciation Month

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American Boeing E-4

·         Nat’l Adopt Senior Pet Month

·         National Alzheimer’s Disease Awareness Month

·         National Aviation History Month

·         National Children Adoption Month

·         National COPD Month

·         National Diabetes Month

·         National Entrepreneurship Month

·         National Epilepsy Awareness Month

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Family Stories comes in flavors

·         National Family Caregivers Month

·         National Family Stories Month

·         National Family Literacy Month

·         National Fun with Fondue Month

·         National Good Nutrition Month

·         National Gratitude Month

·         National Healthy Skin Month

·         National Home Care Month

·         National Hospice Month

·         National Impotency Awareness Month

·         Nat’l Critical Infrastructure Security & Resilience Month

·         National Inspirational Role Models Month

·         National Life Writing Month

·         National Long–Term Care Awareness Month

·         National Marrow Awareness Month

·         National Medical Science (MSL) Awareness

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·         National Memoir Writing Month

·         National Model Railroad Month

·         Nat’l Native American Heritage Month

·         National Novel Writing Month

·         National Pancreatic Cancer Month

·         National Peanut Butter Lovers Month

·         National Pepper Month

·         National Pet Cancer Awareness Month

·         National  Pomegranate Month

·         National PPSI AIDS Awareness Month

·         National PTA Healthy Lifestyles Month

·         National Runaway Prevention Month

·         National Roasting Month

·         National Scholarship Month

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the Tribe

·         No-Shave November Cause

·         PTA Healthy Lifestyles Month

·         Spinach and Squash Month

·         Stomach Cancer Awareness Month

·         Sweet Potato Awareness Month

·         Real Jewelry Month

·         Triple Crown of Surfing

·         World Vegan Month

·         Worldwide Bereaved Sibling Month

·         World Prematurity Awareness Month

·         World Neuroendocrine Cancer Month

 

               

       

       

November Multi-Day & Weekly Events 2019

 

·         MADD's Tie One On For Safety Campaign Nov 01- Dec 31

 

·         National Fig Week                                   Nov 01- 07

 

·         Dear Santa Letter Week                          Nov 07- 14

 

 

·         Intimate Apparel Market Week               Nov 03 - 08

·         Nat’l Animal Shelter /Rescue Appreciate  Nov 03 - 09

·         International Libraries Games Day          Nov 03 - 09

·         National Radiologic Technology Week      Nov 03 - 09

 

·         Hunger & Homelessness Aware Wk.        Nov 09 -18

·         Geography Awareness Week                    Nov 10 - 16

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Nurse Practitioners

·         National Nurse Practitioner Wk.             Nov 10 - 16

·         National Split Pea Soup Week                 Nov 10 - 16

·         Perioperative Nurse Week                       Nov 10 - 16

 

·         Nat’l Transplant Donor Sabbath              Nov 15 -17

 

·         American Education Days                        Nov 18 - 22

·         Global Entrepreneurship Week                Nov 18 - 24

·         National Book Award Week                     Nov 18 - 24

·         National Farm-City Week                        Nov 18 - 24

·         National Young Reader’s Week                 Nov 18 - 24

·         World Antibiotic Awareness Week           Nov 18 - 24

 

 

 

 

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·         Better Conversation Week                       Nov 24 - 30 

·         Church/State Separation Wk.                  Nov 24 - 30 

·         National Game & Puzzle Wk.                   Nov 24 - 30 

·         National Family Week                             Nov 24 - 30 

·         GERD Reflux  Awareness Wk.                 Nov 24 - 30 

 

·         National Deal Week                                 Nov 27- Dec 03

 

 

November Daly Events 2019

 

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Calvin at Writers Festival

Nov 01        Fri    All Saints’ Day 

Nov 01        Fri    National Author's Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Brush Day

Nov 01        Fri    ​National Calzone Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Cook for Your Pets Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Family Literacy Day

Nov 01        Fri    Nat’l Men Make Dinner Day

Nov 01        Fri    National Vinegar Day

Nov 01        Fri    World Vegan Day

 

Nov 02        Sat    All Souls’ Day

Nov 02        Sat    Day of the Dead

Nov 02        Sat    Int’l Fountain Pen Day

Nov 02        Sat    Int’l Plan Your Epitaph Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Bison Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Deviled Egg Day

Nov 02        Sat    National Football Jersey day

Nov 02        Sat    Nat’l Medical Science Liaison (MSL) Appreciation Day

 

 

 

 

 

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Nov 03        Sun   Cliché Day

Nov 03        Sun   Fall Back For Daylight Day

Nov 03        Sun   Give Up Your Should’s Day

Nov 03        Sun   National Homemaker Day

Nov 03        Sun   National Sandwich Day

Nov 03        Sun   Pumpkin Destruction Day   

Nov 03        Sun   Public Television Day

Nov 03        Sun   SOS Day

Nov 03        Sun   World Kindness Day

 Nov 03       Sun   Zero Tasking Day

 

Nov 04        Mon  National Candy Day

Nov 04        Mon  Check Your Blood Pressure Day

Nov 04        Mon  Job Action Day

Nov 04        Mon  Traffic Professionals Day

Nov 04        Mon  Use Your Common-Sense Day

 

Nov 05        Tue   American Football Day

Nov 05        Tue   Bonfire Night

Nov 05        Tue   National Doughnut Day

Nov 05        Tue   National Hot Sauce Day

Nov 05        Tue   National Love Your Red Hair Day

 

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Nov 06        Wed  General Election Day

Nov 06        Wed  International Stress Awareness Day

Nov 06        Wed  National Nachos Day

Nov 06        Wed  Saxophone Day

Nov 06        Wed  U N Day for Preventing  Exploitation of the  Environment

 

Nov 07        Thu   National Stress Awareness Day

Nov 07        Thu   International Merlot Wine Day

Nov 07        Thu   International Stout Day

Nov 07        Thu   National Bittersweet Chocolate with Almonds Day

 

Nov 08        Fri    National Cappuccino Day

Nov 08        Fri    Cook Something Bold and Pungent Day

Nov 08        Fri    National Parents as Teacher Day

Nov 08        Fri    X-Ray Day

Nov 08        Fri    Nat’l Science, Tech, Engineering, Art & Math Day

 

Nov 09        Sat    Carl Sagan Day

Nov 09        Sat    Go to an Art Museum Day

Nov 09        Sat    National Scrabble Day

Nov 09        Sat    World Freedom Day

                  

Nov 10        Sun   Area Code Day

Nov 10        Sun   International Accounting Day

Nov 10        Sun   National Forget-Me-Not Day

Nov 10        Sun   U S Marine Corps Birthday

Nov 10        Sun   U N World Science Day for Peace

 

 

National Singles Day

National Singles Day

 

Nov 11        Mon  Domino Day

Nov 11        Mon  National Metal Day

Nov 11        Mon  Origami Day

Nov 11        Mon  Singles Day

Nov 11        Mon  Veterans Day

Nov 11        Mon  World Orphans Day

 

Nov 12        Tue   National Chicken Soup for the Soul Day

Nov 12        Tue   National French Dip Day

Nov 12        Tue   National Happy Hour Day

Nov 12        Tue   National Pizza with All Except Anchovies

Nov 12        Tue   World Pneumonia Day

 

Nov 13        Wed  Geographic Information System Day

Nov 13        Wed  National Indian Pudding Day

Nov 13        Wed  Sadie Hawkins Day

Nov 13        Wed  World Kindness Day

 

Nov 14        Thu   Great American Smoke out

Nov 14        Thu   International Girls Day

Nov 14        Thu   Loosen Up, Lighten Up Day

Nov 14        Thu   National Philanthropy Day

Nov 14        Thu   National Pickle Day    

Nov 14        Thu   National Spicy Guacamole Day

Nov 14        Thu   Operating Room Nurses Day

Nov 14        Thu   World Diabetes Day

 

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Clean Out Your Refrigerator

Nov 15        Fri    America Recycles Day

Nov 15        Fri    National Bundt (Pan) Day

Nov 15        Fri    Nat’l Clean Out Your Refrigerator Day

Nov 15        Fri    National Drummer Day

 

Nov 16        Sat    International Day For Tolerance

Nov 16        Sat    National Button Day

Nov 16        Sat    National Fast Food Day

 

Nov 17        Sun   National Baklava Day

Nov 17        Sun   Homemade Bread Day

Nov 17        Sun   National Hiking Day

Nov 17        Sun   National Unfriend Day

Nov 17        Sun   World Day to Remember Road Traffic Victims

Nov 17        Sun   World Prematurity Day

 

Nov 18        Mon  Mickey Mouse Birthday

Nov 18        Mon  National Princess Day

Nov 18        Mon  National Vichyssoise Day

 

Nov 19        Tue   National Blow Bagpipes Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Camp Day

Nov 19        Tue   Nat’l Carbonated Beverage With Caffeine Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Have a Bad Day

The International Male

The International Male

Nov 19        Tue   International Men’s Day

Nov 19        Tue   Women's Entrepreneurship Day

Nov 19        Tue   National Play Monopoly Day

Nov 19        Tue   World Toilet Day

 

Nov 20        Wed  National Absurdity Day

Nov 20        Wed  Future Teachers of America Day

Nov 20        Wed  Global Hug a Runner Day aka G.O.H.A.R.D

Nov 20        Wed  Name your PC Day

Nov 20        Wed  National Book Award Winner Announced

Nov 20        Wed  Nat’l Education Support Professionals Day

Nov 20        Wed National Entrepreneur's Day

Nov 20        Wed  Universal Children’s Day

 

 

 

Nov 21        Thu   Jukebox Day

Nov 21        Thu   National Rural Health Day

Nov 21        Thu   World Hello Day

Nov 21        Thu   World Television Day

 

 

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Drive on the Open Hwy

Nov 22        Fri    Go For A Ride Day

Nov 22        Fri    National Cranberry Relish Day

 

Nov 23        Sat    International Survivors of Suicide Day

Nov 23        Sat    Int’l Image Consultants Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Adoption Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Cashew Day

Nov 23        Sat    National Espresso Day

Nov 23        Sat    Dr. Who Day

 

Nov 24        Sun   Celebrate Your Unique Talent Day

Nov 24        Sun   National Sardines Day

 

 

Nov 25        Mon  Int’l Elimination  Day of Violence against Women

Nov 25        Mon  National Blasé Day

Nov 25        Mon  International Hat Day

Nov 25        Mon  National Parfait Day

 

Nov 26        Tue   National Cake Day

Nov 26        Tue   U N Int’l Day of Solidarity with Palestinian People

 

 

Nov 27        Tue   Nat’l Bavarian Cream Pie Day

Nov 27        Wed  National Tie One on Day     

 

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Nov 28        Thu   Thanksgiving Day

Nov 28        Thu   Nat’l Family Health History Day

Nov 28        Thu   National French Toast Day

Nov 28        Thu   Red Planet Day

 

Nov 29        Fri    Black Friday

Nov 29        Fri    Buy Nothing Day

Nov 29        Fri    Electronic Greetings Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Day of Listening

Nov 29        Fri    National Flossing Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Lemon Cream Pie Day

Nov 29        Fri    National Square-Dancing Day

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Nov 29        Fri    Native American Heritage Day

Nov 29        Fri    Rockefeller Center Tree Lighting

Nov 29        Fri    You’re Welcome Day

 

 

 

Nov 30        Sat    National Computer Security Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Mason Jar Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Mousse Day

Nov 30        Sat    National Meth Awareness Day

Nov 30        Sat    Small Business Saturday

Nov 30        Fri    World Stay Home Because You’re Well Day    

Tools for the Self Directed Life

Signs You Are Consciously Living

by Calvin Harris H. W., M.

 

Every moment of every day, we can strive to be vibrant, our best, and most loving to ourselves and others

 

Yes, we at Site of Contact want you to care about your success (whatever success may mean to you), we encourage your learning, your progress, your training (at whatever level is best for you) and we want you to realize the potential within you. BUT your success focus should not be to the extent that it sacrifices your sense of well-being, balance and happiness because compulsions are driving you.

 

 A sign of balance disruption is energy displacement. Stated differently, how the connection between muscular tension in the body causes bodily malfunction or non-functions. This can range from a simply feeling of out of sorts, to bad behavior, all the way to chronic illness. This somatic malfunction of the nervous systems is caused in part due to where conscious attention or lack of it is focused.

 

The nervous system is approximately 85% a visceral, non-thinking, non-conscious intelligence of our bodies. It regulates breathing for us or does digestion, or waste removal, (to name a few of its function). Yet to be complete, that is somatically whole in its effectiveness, we need to be consciously grounded. In computer terms, I am suggesting that our 3-dimensional Beingness runs as a hybrid data system of Body and Mind. The beauty of it is when the simplicity of physical functions running at its best are properly integrated with components of Conscious awareness.

 

Your internal and external data sources are more aligned as a hybrid operating system than you suspect. It enables seamless access, sharing and analysis of all types of perceived data, followed by combinations of action deployment based on memory tapes running and updating all the time. Its reliability is based on upgrades to its storage units. This hybrid combination allows for the storage unit to gain insights like understanding your reactions in social situations that may be random or different than what was experienced in the past and allows for alternative outcomes such as empathy followed by supportive social engagement rather than anger and rage.

  

This Hybrid integration of Somatic data management simply stated is your capability to engage with your world in a range of new situations that goes beyond your historic way of doing things, that yield to you new insights and vitality in life - you could call it a joy of living.

 

With that in mind, siteofcontact.net. suggest this simple philosophy: To create understanding in all of your relationships, start first with yourself.

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A key tool to begin this process, is to keep a journal: It could be electronic or handwritten, that's your choice. What it should entail is data, call it your reflection upon issues, emotions, situations that will show you signs of where you concentrate your energy and that could signal for you areas where displacement energy is being put.

 

Additionally, journaling can help you discover the fun or humor in the strangest of circumstances, even in the mundane tasks you come across daily. So, if you are going to be driven, decide to be driven by your potential for awareness in control of habits and active choices that you choose to internalize

 

Your Journal can be a resource and a benefit when:

  • You take time to reflect and review your activities, in such a way to allow your brain the chance to assemble and create order amidst what appears as chaos.

 

  •   You can gain insights parlayed into new habits, learned from observations and your experiences.

 

  • You can be less reactive, and more proactive in response that is more positive and self-confident though your discoveries and insights.

 

You could call this process of writing a type of “wet computer (brain) download”.

 

A suggestion, if this is a first-time journaling experience for you, then pick a time to do it when there are few if any distractions, and it is not a hectic nor stressful time of day. Some like to do it in the evening, when their reflections and insights seem to cleanse and empty their heads before bed. Others make time for reflection in the morning, as a way of cleaning their slate in preparation for a clearer sense of direction in their day.

 

As a bonus one builds a stronger relationship with oneself, without outside judgment or opinions to screen or hide one from their essential core. Some claim that improvements increase when one can find and practice gratitude for what they have discovered as a positive element or configuration in their life.

 

What I find helpful for beginners is for them not to try and use it as a grocery list of events that happened that day. But do journal on a regular basis. Look for what you consider to be relevant: situations that stand out, or are decisive, or momentous, or where you caught yourself in repetitious non-beneficial behaviors or thoughts; or where you are critical or pressing; notations of events having far-reaching effects, or that things have become urgent

 

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You may find it helpful not to use journal pages that have preprinted calendar date pages: This eliminates you from pressures to have to write daily. Instead, you have the freedom and leisure to write when you choose. Like everything else it takes practice to create good habits. Journaling will take finding and instituting a new routine or habit for yourself that incorporates consistent times and place for journaling that gives you a sense of accomplishment and success.

 

The important thing is to have fun journaling and with what you discover about Living Consciously. Benefits may show up as:




More observing Less judging

More responding Less reaction

More clarity Less self -sabotage

More engaged Less restriction

More self-Love Less fear

More boundaries Less other’s chaos

More trust Less resentment

More inner peace Less dung




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What changes is consciously not having the compulsions and reactions to people and things. Journaling becomes a means of reflection, rest, and recovery. When the progress made with journaling becomes knowing your essential self, that then enables supportive constructive social engagement with others.

 

Having an ongoing relationship with yourself creates an alignment with life. Remember life is about balance, being content, but never to stop growing, and learning. It's about fulfilling the need to add fun and discovery into each day along the way.

More advance techniques and practices are available through the Prosperos School of Ontology, email me Calvin at ialchemy1@gmail.com, for more details or if you have questions.

I close with a favorite quote from a character in the book ‘Auntie Mame’ by Patrick Dennis who says, "Live, Live, Live! Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!" 

Aloha

Calvin